As this forum has helped me out with everything from my first approach to my first SNL, I was really hoping that you guys could help me with my latest problem in my progression: getting a girl I've recently started seeing to cum.

She's told me that the first ever time she had sex, she thought she was going to pee instead of cumming. She told the guy. He sounded disgusted. Since then it's really rare for guys to make her cum. One guy managed it once. Apparently, this was by ignoring her when she said stop as he kept massaging her clit (subsequently, he kept her gagged and cuffed so she couldn't stop him). She's never had a penetrative orgasm.

Q1 - How do I do it?

Q2 - 2nd time I was with her, I thought that if I dragged out foreplay long enough she'd cave easily. She didn't, but what's the limit to how long to drag foreplay out for. This went on for about 4 hours. Is that too long? She says it wasn't but then again she's not going to want to hurt my feelings at this point.

Ta in advance guys.

Hey ZebraG,

All woman are different, that said here are some techniques that are effective.

For a woman, its all about the clit, less than 30% of woman orgasm regularly from intercourse without clitoral stimulation, so don't worry about that. So, focus your attention on her clit, if its sensitive, which it sounds like it is, then use two fingers to gently rub the sides of her clitoral hood, if you get the pressure right, she will have an orgasm, without wanting to remove your hand due to sensitivity. That said, tie her down if she is into that.

If your up for cunnilingus, licking her out will produces an orgasm a high percentage of the time, though again, sensitivity issues may be a problem, so do it slowly and at a steady pace. again keeping her bound may help. (with permission)

You can increase the likeliness of a penile orgasm by keeping a steady pace, and by moving her legs into the air (hooking them over your arms) to give you better leverage to hit her G-spot, be careful if you are well endowd however as this gives you greater depth of penetration and can cause discomfort, or, be a greater turn on depending on the girl.

If she is a fit girl (meaning toned) you can increase the chance of an orgasm further by having her use her pelvic floor muscles (the ones that she uses to hod of going for a wee) this gives greater access to an area know as the P spot, that is said to be a greater pleasure zone than the G-spot, and can increase orgasm chances.

The final, and greatest way, is through fingering her, to do this, make sure she is wet (or lubed up) use your middle fingers, insert them palm up, and do a "rock on" gesture with your hand whilst insider her (both fingers pointing up and facing pelvis, move your hand up and down, and hold her gently down with you off hand, this can get a squirting orgasm in less than one minute if done correctly, either way, she will thank you for it.

Hope this helps.

The female orgasm is about 10% physical and about 90% mental, meaning that she will need to figure out a way to shed or at least minimize her hangups over how some douchebag perceived her orgasm all those years ago in order to fully enjoy all the pleasures sex and its related activities have to offer.

You can help her on this journey by making her as comfortable as possible with you and exhibiting a complete lack of judgmental bullshit when it comes to what she likes or her behavior in the boudoir. And for the love of all that's holy and decent, don't pressure her or ask her questions about how close she is to cumming. These will only make her more self-conscious.

Instead, focus your energy on turning her on in every possible way - intellectually, physically, emotionally. The rest should take care of itself.

Your boy,
870

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Thank you 870 and double j; it confirmed lots I knew and cleared up several very foolish mistakes I've been making! would you recommend any of the following?
1) telling her to just relax and that I'm not worried if she lets out some pee
2) intertwining fingers while she masturbates herself

Also, thoughts on number 2; how long should foreplay be?