My girlfriend have been together for several months and everything, I mean EVERYTHING, is going great.

Recently one of her long time acquaintances has been texting her and she is very open with me about it. She shares what he texts her and how she replies, etc.

She doesn't really enjoy the texting and normally gives him one word answers or one liners.

Recently, he sent flowers to her office and he asked whether she liked them, also wishing her a great day. She just thanked him and said, "Thanks, but I prefer daisies in future."

To which he replied, "Yes, ma'am!".

I am sure that he's your typical AFC and therefore, I'm not at all bothered by this, but I don't want to be seen as a pushover.

She mentioned that although she doesn't have any feelings for him, she does feel slightly moved and sorry for him, as all his efforts are going to waste.

What's the best way to handle this in an alpha manner?

Trust me he is no competition. Dont react at all emotionally or ever tell ur girl not to contact him. BE fun and have a lot of sex. She is going to love you and forget about him.

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I agree that you shouldn't worry about it. Just don't have a huge fight so she doesn't hit him up for reassurance.

What I don't get is why she texts him back at all. Not that you should instigate it but I typically over analyze everything.

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An Alpha does not address petty things like that. You already know he is no threat, so don't blow it out of proportion.

You shouldn't be worried, but she's not exactly avoiding him with those one word texts. She could just not text him back at all.

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Thanks for the replies.

In fact, I'm having quite a blast reading all of his texts.

My girlfriend has asked me several times if I'm at all jealous, as if expecting that a guy would normally be disturbed.

Each time, I've shrugged it off and told her that I'm proud she's receiving the attention, and then we laugh it off.

She seems to think it's very odd that I'm not even a tiny bit jealous, as if I'm in fact going to great lengths to hide my jealousy.

However, because we work in the same office, many of our colleagues have asked her if the flowers were from me, to which she's had to reply 'No'. I think that this is actually what's bothering her the most about all of this.

I on the other hand, have never sent her flowers, even after we got together. When she asked if I've ever sent flowers (in the past), I tell her jokingly, "It's always the girls who send me flowers!"

Now my problem really is, I don't want our colleagues (female dominated workplace) or even herself to think I'm cheap by not sending her flowers. I've jokingly told her as well, that I much prefer to send food (as in pizzas, etc, I'm a real foodie.) than flowers.

So how should I handle the situation?

If she is not hiding it, you have no problem.

You know why she thinks it is odd? Because she has met a man who has his emotions in check. She can not push your buttons so easily so she is intrigued . Self-Control is the hallmark of the Alpha man. Physically + Emotionally secure >>> Neediness + Insecurity.

It reminds me of being tested recently by one of my FWB; she told me she was asked out on a date. I teased her about it. Then she asked if it was okay if she went(test and games women play) and I told her it was fine and thanked her for asking. She told me she never expected that kind of response.

As for the situation, you should not feel obligated to send her flowers just because this guy is. If you have already won over her female friends then there is no further necessary action. Do what you want to do, I am pretty sure your lady will understand the sentimental value behind your actions. So if you are a foodie then do that, maybe even get her a favorite dish of hers. Shows that you actually listen to her lol.

I like this because its on the opposite side of the spectrum of what we often see here. Usually it's an AFC wanna-be pua coming on here asking how to seduce a girl who says she has a boyfriend. The AFC got her number so he thinks he's in, but then he wonders why she only gives one word text replies. I think it's interesting that the reason she is leading this guy on (and giving him slight IOIs in the process) is because she feels sorry for him.

And what we always tell those guys has been proven to be true here--forget about her and game more women. Because on the other end of the text messages he is sending is some dude who is reading them, laughing, and then fucking the girl all night long. And the AFC's sitting at home alone with his dick in his hand wondering why the girl won't like him and if maybe he should send TWO dozen roses next time.

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No need to worry bro, if anything he is doing you a favour. Giving her the attention outside of the bedroom. Just keep smashing her in every night

Most of my girlfriends have moaned at me for "not being jealous enough" when other guys give them attention. My ex would constantly tell me everytime her ex text her and stare at me for a "I want you more then him blahdeblah" I would just shrug my shoulders and go "He hasn't got anything better to do then text you, what a loser" in a jokey way, then as soon as we get home I smash her in.

I live my life on a basis that if you cheat on me/hurt me that much then you have no place in my life and don't deserve to be in it so I don't get jealous.

Thanks guys. =)

Yea, I know that sending her flowers as well (competing with him) is a definite no-no. However she's a bit of a feisty one as well. Every once in a while, I do get taken aback by some of her shit tests.

As I said earlier, I'm looking for ways to get around how she might shit test me on being cheap by not buying her flowers, or our colleagues backing her on me being cheap, or how normal guys should 'compete' with this admirer.

I've already got one, saying, "I'm not like normal guys, and that's what you love about me. "

But I'm a lil' lost on the cheap part.

The guys a total chump and no specific threat.

However its concerning shes stringing him along rather then just telling him to beat it. She has a need for attention which is a problem and will result in more issues later. I would lay the law down to her and tell her to knock it off, just mind your emotions in addressing her. The casual "ignore and laugh it off" is way too passive a solution for my tastes, even when these passive solutions work 90% of the time they dont end the problem like pro-active solutions do..

Something that might be a good idea is to give her a night of seriously good fucking then afterwards when your getting all cuddly and shit pull a single rose out from under the bed.

She'll love it and its not bullshit "heres some flowers sent to your work"

i think detox makes some great points here, especially the bolded part.


rizz-

def dont be worried about this guy specifically, but there certainly are some potential problems that could be coming here. your gf seems to be very needy and testy. i, for one, dont like dealing with girls like that. i really hate bullshit and petty drama.

just based on what youve told us it seems to me as if youre always going to be dealing with some kind of attention whoring/testing/drama constantly with her. so you need to decide if thats something youre willing to put up with. if not, then you need to make some changes immediately. put your foot down and tell her to cut the shit. she shouldnt constantly be making fun of you for being cheap because you didnt buy her flowers or whatever. thats not her 'testing' you, thats her just downright being disrespectful.

now obv im not there with her day in and day out like you are, so perhaps its not as bad as the impression that i get from you. maybe its all just joking and playing but there are definitely tons of causes for concern here given the way shes handled this whole thing.