Can someone fill me in on the concept and then some EXAMPLES of actual actions you would do in certain cases of punishment and reward. a list would be great i cant find anything too solid besides "if she pisses you off go piss her off, if she does something you like, show it etc..

also, girl I am dating got borderline alcohol poisoning last night and made both of us miss a block halloween party I was looking forward too. She's said thanks for 'helping me' and 'why would you care for me instead of going to party?' (she was literally so drunk she wouldve passed out on the road or gotten arrested.) and instead of being all 'because i care and I'm dating you' i said 'you're welcome' and' I had to or else you would have been arrested.' and tried to look angry that we couldnt go to the party. This seems to happen to her every once in a while (6 out of the 25+ times we've gone out in the past 9 weeks) because she drinks so she can socialize because she is shy. but this is the first time she was so drunk I actually had to take care of her...

my question is did I respond correctly and how should I bring this up in saying she shouldn't drink so much or needs to moderate herself without it being awkward or weird, especially because it's her birthday next week, in which her friends are visiting.