When a girl flakes you one day and promises to call you a couple of days later but she doesn't, does it mean that it's over? She lost interest? She has been a little distant lately.

We've went out several times before if that's a factor.

Thanks

Na keep trying, too early to tell could be anything

Have you F-closed her yet? If you haven't go F-close her.

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Ironically I was gonna F-close the first time she flaked me but apparently the universe had different plans for me.

I'll keep trying but I'm not gonna initiate contact. If she wants me she can come get me.

If you wait for her to come and get you, she probably won't. Just try again in a week or whatever.

Next time you see escalate big time and go hard for the F-close. Remember "the best way to get a second date is to fuck her on the first"

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Can't I just say something along the lines of "Hey let's meet up at X and just do our thing" and get this over with? I'm tired of all the formalities and waiting lol.

"Formalities" and waiting is just a part of game, sometimes you don't have a choice.

I'm not there watching over you but sounds like you're in a pretty shitty position. You been on multiple dates and you still haven't F-close, or even really tried to F-close by the sounds of it.

Keep trying but don't get stalkerish, invite her to YOUR place next time, or at least somewhere easy to F-close, and fucking F-close her!!! You have to F-close this girl as soon as possible.

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Fuck it she keeps being all distant and quiet. I don't need this.

I want to test something before I move on: what does usually happen when you tell a girl something like "Listen are you interested at all or are you wasting my time?" Considering I wanted this girl to be my girlfriend and not a simple fling.

Then she will run a mile away. If she was interested she would let you know. Your making it way too easy for her. Girls like to be chased but they like chasing even more (without knowing it.)

Girls get the feelings of "Why isn't he giving me attention" mixed up with feelings of attraction. The more she wants your attention the more attracted she is to you. The more attention you give her without her begging for it the less attraction she has for you.

Whats going on in your situation is that she flaked on you and you promptly tried to set up another date.

So what happened:

Her: Hey *insert flakey bullshit*

You: Oh thats cool we'll meetup tomorrow blahdeblah.

Now she thinks its totally cool to flake on you as you appear to be a free man with very little going on.

What should have happened.

Her: Hey sorry *flakey bullshit*

You: Fair play, got some shit to do anyway. We'll do something when I'm free.

Now you've turned it around on her, now your the one who is a busy boi. This is how the game works, unfortunately "I like you, your hot, lets bang" just make you seem easy which means desperate/AFC in a girls eyes.

Also if her flakey reason was absolute bullshit then she will try and meetup with you. If she does just include her. for example had a date with a HB9, mindfucker girl awhile ago. Had been warned how she mindfucks everyone. Anyway she flaked I sent her:

Her: Hey I'm really sorry I'm not really up for tonight. I've had a bad day and it's got to me. *Expecting me to cheer her up when shes feeling down without any naked reward for myself.

Me: Ah fair enough, I'm off to the pub with some friends anyway. Cheer up.

*I was chilling at the pub, she walks in with the girls I was meeting with (knows them)

Her: Oh hey, I thought I was being a bit of a downer so I decided to come. Do you want to go for a drive when everyone goes home?

Banged her in her back seat. Anyway:

Thankfully if you f'close her you can get to the meat of it all and literally just request her presence for sex.

My advice? go a TOTAL reopen. Just text her some playful opener. Make her WANT to hang around with you instead of moaning at her to. Also NEVER EVER go "You didn't call!" if she mentions the whole calling thing just go "Oh shit yeah, I forgot about that. Its cool I've had a major busy week" This does 3 things.

1: It makes her think she isn't always on your mind. What does she have to do to always be on your mind. GET NAKED!

2: Your a busy boi, she isn't the most important thing in your life. How can she become the most important thing in your life. GETTING NAKED!

3: It makes you out to be the busy awesome sociable guy compared to the needy loner "why didn't you call me" person.

Awesome man, what you said is pure gold. I must confess that in my rush to get with her I became too impatient and messed things up.

Fortunately I did most of the things you mentioned however it appears that she lost quite a lot of interest in me so I'm gonna have to rebuild that attraction (if I decide to keep on bothering with this one).

Thanks!