So I have been trying to increase attraction on my coworker who I have been interested in pretty much since I started working with her (6months). She had a boyfriend so I couldn't escalate, but now she's been single for almost 2 months. She is a straight up 10 and she gets a lot of attention from guys (we work at a bar).

Anyway, I have been flirting with other girls, texting other girls, etc. in front of her and all of it was working really well, except I think I over did it. She now starts flirting and texting with other guys more often in front of me pretty much mirroring what I have been doing. I think she thinks I'm not interested anymore and/or is trying to make me jealous and chase. I really don't want to lose her. I want to ask her out for drinks, but it's hard because of how our work schedule is set up. I need to make my intentions clearer...help me out guys!

Also, on a related topic...she asked me what gym I go to and she's thinking about joining my gym to workout together. Is this good or would it make us closer to being just friends?

Thanks in advance guys

Also, if she asks me why I am interested all of a sudden out of the blue...I was thinking about saying something along the lines of I don't like to ask out girls who I work with, but I've grown quite fond of you (in a confident/funny way)...good or bad idea?

Also, I might be moving jobs, so I was thinking about saying this if I do go...Now that we are not working together I can finally ask you out...what do you think?

It's push PULL, not just push. You did good by texting other girls and flirting in front of her, but you need to also give her IOIs at the same time. That bar environment is so fast paced with so many hot people coming and going that you can't really tell who is really interested and who is just flirting unless you actually move in for the kill.

What I would do is flirt with a girl in front of her, then shortly thereafter go up to her and start telling her about how you might be getting a new job soon, and how you would finally be able to ask her out if that happens. Note, you are not actually asking her out at that point. Your are just telling her that if you are able to, you might in the future. She'll more than likely respond in such a way that will clue you in to whether or not asking her out will be a good idea.

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And if she responds negatively and I end up staying at this job, wouldn't it be super awkward?

Also, could you give me some pointers on how to give her IOIs?

If she responds negatively then run the fuck away and never be seen around town again!

Seriously, if she says no then so what? Carry on like you are, the persona you have given her, if I've read right is that you are in contact with other women all the time so you shouldn't care if she says no. By asking her you give her two choices, if she chooses no then at least you know not to waste anymore energy.

Be ballsy my man, no one ever got anywhere by standing by and waiting for the pool to heat up!

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Dude, do you think it's awkward when I go up to a set and ask them who lies more men or women, and they role their eyes and say "So ANYWAY..." and go back to talking to each other like I'm not even standing there? Yea, a little bit. But I suppose I could just never try, and that way avoid awkward situations entirely. Is that what you want to do?

Btw, telling her that you would ask her out is the biggest IOI you can give.

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Asking a coworker out and hitting on strangers are way different...I don't have the option of never seeing them again if things go south, but I get your point. I was thinking about asking her best friend's boyfriend who is an acquaintance of mine..."between you and me...is she seeing or interested in anyone that you know of?" This will minimize my risk, give me info, etc. and I don't see much negative risks from doing this...what do you think?

If there's no harm in it, then why not do it. But I honestly think you are looking for someone on here to give you an excuse to not ask her out or put yourself in a vulnerable position. But you have to put yourself out there if you expect to get any success. Do you think she would ever want to be with a guy who was too timid to ask her out?

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