alright so lets just say I'm not good AT ALL on what to do when it comes to the after-hookup (seeing the girl at school the next day... ) .

Now, I have no problem hooking up with girls when I go out (i was voted best looking guy at my school), that is not my weak spot.
My weak spot is on what to do if I want to keep talking to a girl after we hook up, I just don't know what to do -. I unfortunately, a lot of times, just ignore the girl I hooked up with at school (my school is not that big so you usually see certain students everyday), not because I want to but because I'm not sure what to do or say.. So this is why I've had zero girlfriends, zero day 2's, yet I hook up with a different girl usually every weekend. I have a HUGE weak spot in my game as you might be able to see..
I'm not gonna lie, i'm getting tired of hooking up with different girls and not establishing an emotional connection or at least a friendship; it's just like we make out and nothing happens after that. Not gonna lie i think it's time for me to settle down and get a girlfriend but I have trouble trying to accomplish the steps into getting that girlfriend..
please I don't want to hear anyone say anything about ONEITIS because I really want to settle down now and get a girlfriend, i've had enough of my random weekly hookups.

SO let me get to the most recent story, on saturday I hooked up with one of the prettiest girls from my school (hb 8.5-9) ; I'm very picky when it comes to the way a girl looks if I even want to decide to pursue contacting a girl, but this girl definitely fits the bill. This week I ran into her twice at school, we both just looked at each other and say hi and kept walking our ways... We both know exactly what happened that night but inside I just go blank when I see her and don't know what to say besides whatsup, then I keep walking my way..
I don't know what to do .. I mean, maybe I should add her on facebook and maybe start from there to get a topic going?

what do you guys think I should do when it comes to this? I just recently noticed I have this problem about talking to girls after the hookup.. what do you guys think I should do? thanks!

I showered 5 minutes less to be able to respond to your topic before i leave to work, you better be grateful son.

OneItis is indeed a word that's overly used to settle a situation, guess it's either the lack of knowledge or just lazyness.

Judging by your post, it's very obvious what is going on, You're lacking confidence. You are EXACTLY the type of person I am, I meet alot of girls, all fine and well, nothing special and we really hit off well, they come to me, ask for dates, etc... but when it comes down to finally meeting someone you develop romantic/sexual interest in, you just get a black-out. I to wanted to settle in during those moments.

The thing You've gotta learn brother, is letting go. It's an important aspect of PUA because holding down to that one girl you like is not good, expand your network with more pretty girls that you can game.

About this situation, I dunno for how long this has been going on, if you've had akward conversations with her, or didn't even say a word for a week, it could've become a rather strange situation. Remember one rule, it goes for everyone and everything in life, If you dont shoot the bullet, you'll always miss. Simple as that.

Do something that boosts your moral up highly afterwards just go to the girl and open up, if you've gone to a party together be like ''Hey Charlee, I never expected you to be hitting up on the floor that way, You made me proud girl!''. Dont ever use this kissing as an opener or a subject, leave it be for now and make her feel that you're strong enough to let go, guys that hold on to those thoughts feel weak. If she brings it up, perfect, that means she's thinking about it, if not, dont feel demotivated, she might be shy, whatever.

Plan is simple, be enthusiastic, be confident and have a good nice talk with her with lots of humour and just give her a comfort feeling, once that barrier breaks and she shows interest, it's all about escalating brother.

Hope i was of any help - Nick

Geeze man if youre gunna be awkward about it she's gunna feel weird too!

Just be calm, cool, and collected hehe. Here's the golden question..
What's up? Blahblah
How's life? Blah blah

Is your mind blown? These super simple questions are what I ask and they work like a charm. Make her laugh, thats the key.

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thanks for the replies guys .

No it wasn't that awkward between us, we hooked up just about 5 days ago so it wasn't that long, everytime we see each other it's just a quick 'hi'/'whatsup' , like I don't start a conversation up , i just leave it at that..

So i'm guessing I just gotta convert that quick hi into a conversation that can lead off from there..

Gave you 2 convo starters there.

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Yeah bro, 5 days with saying nothing sounds pretty fucked up to me.

Dont simply go for a hi to be honest, you need to show more energie and enthusiasm + confidence. This'll make the akward feeling go away and shift the question to her, she'll be like wow, where is this coming from?
If you'd go up to her and be like heya.. how you doing.. It's gonna show that you are stuck on your mind with something which will point out the obvious (the kissing) ofcourse.