I've been seeing this girl for 3-4 weeks, last week we hung out ever single day until Sunday, we even took a road trip to visit our friends in another city. We kiss and hold hands almost every time we see each other. She's come over to my house several times and ive made it to third base. I really want to ask her to be my girlfriend but I wanted to wait until it was her birthday (in two weeks). I usually have no problem with not seeing someone, but I haven't seen her since Sunday, shes a really shitty texter so we barely get to talk when not in person. I'm the first guy whos taken her on dates and such and such. Her friends, while drunk, have mistakenly called me her boyfriend being completely serious.

Two questions: When should I ask her to be my girlfriend (day, time on a date? birthday night? etc..)

and also, I feel myself getting very attached. I never get anxious over anything EVER. and now I'm worrying about her not texting me back or little stupid things i never have cared about with past girls and girlfriends. I feel its to the point where I need to do something to detach myself to the point where it will not hinder me.

so my second question is what do I need to do to prevent myself of becoming needy and obsessive? because I like her, but I do not want to scare her or myself.

thanks.

Yikes, that's a bad case of one itus. The only cure is other women. But I know you don't want to hear that.

Btw, grown men don't ask girls to be their girlfriend. That's a silly grade school thing. The gf label eventually is assumed, and is only referenced once it's been established after an agreement to exclusivity.

I don't think you're desperate, but you are pining after her because you are attracted to her and horny. That's understandable. You're gonna' hate this part too. You need to convey to her the opposite of how you actually feel. Like literally just call her up out of the blue and tell her you might not be able to make it to her birthday. Make up some plausible reason. Tell her you'll try, but you'll have to let her know.

I've said this a million times on here. You need to say and do things that she'll turn around and call her girl friends and be like "I don't know why he's being an ass. I thought he liked me but now I can't tell..." That stuff confuses the girl and keeps her off balance, and conditions her to chase after you. That's actually a good thing.

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