There's a girl (8) I hooked up with at work, went out a couple of times, txted alot & kiss closed. This went on for 6 months or so, and then came a time where I began to feel that she was investing more time with her girlfriends...instead of me.. my inner game was destroyed.. and i just stopped seeing a better version of myself.. and invested all that energy on her...zz!

So came along an argument.. things got nasty when she said that i shouldn’t waste time on her etc.....and the I rubbed her the wrong way and we parted... Didn't see her for 3 months or so..

and then i get a text...saying that she wants to talk with me and sort things out.. she's even said sorry, but I haven't responded till date not a single word....i just followed a rule that i read at this forum"

"If you treat a woman like Gold, she'll treat you like Shit - if you treat her like shit, she will treat you like GOLD....

So the question, should I respond...to her text or leave her where she is??? Cause I'm at peace with myself.. no lingering around ...nothing to scramble my brain....But deep down I do wnat to settle a score and teach her a lesson...

Seriously, the best path here to take is the one where you are just happiest. Forget revenge. It's pointless. Yeah she hurt you, but maybe you had a part in that too?

Whatever the past may be, let the past be. If you feel like hitting her up again do so, just don't be angry at her. Be the better man and rise above your vengeful feelings. Be the cool guy again, be the fun one, let her see what she's missed out on. You don't need this chick, you just are the way you are and hopefully are happy and at peace. If she sees this, she will truly see what she's missed out on.

You lose if you react unfortunately. Even if you react to things that happened a long time back.

What is your goal with her here? Do you want to plant your revenge? Do you want to close the deal and fuck her? What? Only then will you know what to truly do.

I totally agree with you, BUT the option of revenge is very TEMPTING and it brings out the darker side in all of us. It's like the law pay for crimes committed. I know it sounds heartless but guess we humans are programmed that way and it’s hard to change. Yeah, I did get hurt and it happened cause i fell for her....and she took advantage of it.... yeah my part in the scenario was a terribly weak inner game...so that can be the cause for the tiff...

I haven’t approached her at all in the last 3 months, got a text yestry noon that she wanted to talk, i didn’t respond... and i get a long txt at around 11-pm, and she writes:

[i][b]"It doesn't make a difference to you, does it? Each day passes by and I'm trying to figure out a way to speak with you but can't. I have made a mistake for which you did receive an apology text...but it can't work this way where one person is always wrong, it’s your ego too (I silently nodded at this statement). There's a past that connects us, but you're acting as if you don't even know me... and I'm the stupid woman who's messed up thinking about the past...whereas you're totally cool with how life's getting along for you.. just hope time heals everything"[/b][/i]

When she didn’t get a reply she started calling me, i didn’t answer the phone.. and finally switched it off....

I understand being the better man option works...(ALPHA male.. kinda thingy).. but you know what...i feel the option only works .. if the woman has the potential to realize this quality.... I’ve remained calm and cool, with all of her shit tests...fuss you name it...but somewhere down the line... she thought that my silence was a weakness....not realizing what it actually was.

Its apparent from the text that she is missing out on me...but i wonder if it’s to check out if she can still pull the strings..... the last text i got from her was:

[i][b]"It's better if u don't waste your valuable time on me, so have a good life".[/b][/i]

I did a lot of thinking, this girl wasn't getting me anywhere.. infact i was investing energy in something with no return....so yeah, i did draw a conclusion that she was not important to me anymore... but vengeance doesn’t let me live in peace...

[b]My Goal:[/b]
Plant my revenge....? A public insult, cause everyone thinks she's f####ing innocent...
Close the deal and FUCK her.....!!!!