Ok so long story short i broke up with my gf 6 months ago. Met this new chick 2 weeks after. Shes fine as hell hb9 first date we were all over eachother at the movies...barely talked. Second date Awkward to say the least it was the last time we hung out (months ago). I was a complete AFC after i broke up with my girl for like three months. Im back to the old/new me...if that makes any sense. so ive recently started talking to HB9 again and earlier in the week we had plans to hang out on Monday. So i tried calling her today about it doesnt pick up but txts me some bs so i joke with her for a minute then invite her to chill with me. So she tells me she has some bs thing to do at her campus at 4 but can do something after. I think she is going to flake so i suggest hanging out earlier. She txts back we could do that lol. now maybe im over analysing but i feel like im being a force on hanging out with her. Just because she said LOL like what relavance does that have in that scenario of the convo at hand? I literally say "we could go earlier" she says "That could work lol". So I guess im looking for advise should I back off because i feel like im kind of giving her no option here. t having said that im a new guy so i feel like even though she might not be totally into Hanging out innitially once she sees how confident i am she will like me..........After reflecting back on reading this I feel as though my insecurities are rooted in that still present AFC"voice"in my head. What do you guys think?

This is what you did wrong.

Escalation is good, but it can go too quickly. You got really hot and steamy and spent most of the first date in a state of heightened sexuality and you barely talked. You didn't build any comfort with her, so once she has had time to come down and think about things she got buyer's remorse about things moving too fast.

You should have slowed things down and actually talked to her so she can see that you're not just some vociferous sexual predator, you need comfort as well as escalation in order to get anything more than a quick fuck. The cinema is a terrible choice for a date.

Try and make it clear to her that you think things moved too fast and you need to take some time to get to know each other a little, because she probably thinks if you hang out again you are going to want to get straight down to steamy make out sessions. Also, cut back on the neediness, give her some radio silence for a while before re-initiating.

However, this is just my view of things based on what you have said, take it with some salt because I am by no means the most experienced person on these forums but I hope my input helps.