Hey y'all, new on these boards, but been a regular reader (not really poster) of fastseduction forums back in the day. I'm from Belgium, so my English isnt great so excuse me for major spelling and grammatical errors .

Long version
Anyway, here's my story:
After several years Ive finally managed to pretty much kill any approach anxiety I had.. had to do alot of inner game/self-esteem stuff to finally get it all handled but I think I'm good now.. However, I seem to have a new problem which is keeping the girl attracted.

I tend to get number close rather often (sometimes kiss close but not too often) , and following it up afterwards, but heres where the problem starts.
After the initial encounter/"date" things just go on a downward spiral, I get all AFC and try to meet up for a 2nd date and get shot down so easily its ridiculous. I know im vibing needyness by setting up a 2nd date but I'm not really sure how else to act?

I think i should just wait till the girls iniate contact again after the first date? Should I bother replying to lame texts or just wait for a phone call?

Could be that I'm allready fucking up on the 1st encounter, because I dont really have them calling me back.. then again.. I problaly dont give them a chance to either, asking to set up a 2nd date within 3-4 days (too short?). As you can tell I'm completely lost and need some help!

Furthermore, even if the interaction goes further, its really hard not to fall into the trap of getting needy/clingy but still giving enough attention to keep the girl intrested.

Please help me fix this so I can get some lays going cheers!

Short version:
I need some real help in keeping the girl intrested, Ive fucked up so many potential girlfriends/fuckfriends just because of my AFC-attitude after the first encounter but I just keep stuck in it.

Anyone had similar problems with keeping the girl attracted? And how to fix it?

no-one?

There can be several reasons. The first is that you didn't perform well enough on the first encounter. If you play it really cool, then it is very unlikely that the girl won't call you back.

Second thing is that you shouldn't wait for her to contact you. That will hardly ever happen. You're the man, you're supposed to make the move. You call her up, and set up a date. If she accepts, great. No need to talk about it any more because it's needy. Talk about other things instead. If she doesn't accept, next girl.

Third thing is that I suggest you as a newbie especially that you game multiple girls at the same time, up until the point when you actually initiate a committed relationship with one of them. This helps because it kills needyness. Because you know you have other options.

As for keeping the girl interested, well... I know it's a cliché but be interesting. Talk about interesting stuff. Especially talk about stuff that is emotional to her. For example, first kiss, or stuff that few people know about her. This creates intimacy.

And lastly, your biggest problem is that you lack experience. So just don't give up and keep up sarging, it will get better if you learn from your mistakes. I hope I could help.

Happy sarging mate!

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Thanks ! Great advice

I can confirm that this is a very good strategy that kills neediness, and also spares you the whole drama in your head when one of the girls takes too much time to respond your texts. Sometimes (like us afterall) they do fall asleep and forget about their phone. I am using this strategy right now and I can tell you its them who text me first thing in the morning. I dont even have to make any efforts. Good advice.

The less hard you try, the more easily you'll hold another's interest. Weird, huh!;)