After doing a little study on this, I realized before you can know a girl physically you have to know her emotionally. That's important to girls. They don't like strangers. So what's a good way to build a good, firm connection with a girl thats on a deep level - and how do you find out of you hv commonalities?

Thanks.

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More of a way to build connection when getting to know someone but it can be applied and extended beyond that.

Personally, I feel this is one of the most important part of the game. And the problem is, a lot of guys in the pick up community do not wanna work on this. They wanna use routine to built this. Guess what? This is not gonna take you that far.

Suggestion: Stop watching TV and playing Video Games all day. And get into things that girls like or love to do, and guys also do. This will built strong rapport, connection, and even if a girl you meet is in to what you love, you can bring her in and introduce to your lifestyle.

For example: Guys that are in rock band, even though the rock band might be crappy can easily get girls that are in to rock music. It does not have to be rock music, it can whatever your passionate about, as long as you love it, and is a identity that a girl will like.

Just think about how you met all your guy friends. All you guys had something in common you guys all like to do. Like playing video games, sports, etc... You did not fake any routines on them. Same with women.

I think saying you need to get to know her emotionally is not accurate. She needs to know that you are emotionally secure, but that's more about you and not about her. You need to connect with her through comfort, rapport, attraction, and seduction, but not necessarily on an emotional level. Emotions take time to build, and that doesn't happen unless you spend a lot of time with a woman.

If you try to make a deep emotional connection too early, you can come across as the deep/introspective guy which can be a little too much and even be a little creepy. I mean, she may mention her dad died recently, and you could tell her you totally relate because you lost your mom, but you don't want that conversation to keep going to the point that you both get sad and tear up. You wanna keep it light, playful, and fun. Emotional connection is kind of a vague, open-ended concept, which you may be confusing with rapport and attraction.

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