pua's,

I've met a girl.. and we agreed to go on a date tonight..
after some texting this week i've messaged her this morning something like:

me: James, i pick you up tonight at 8
me: we go for a drink and later go to the cinema
me: kinda standard though ;p

and she replied

she: hahahahahhaha!
she: james..

and i replied

me: ;p
me: so where does james live?

and after that.. no response anymore for a few hours now.. i can see she has read the message, but she doesn't reply.

The strange thing is we already agreed earlier this week to go on a date tonight.

I think the best thing to do is just not go after her and don't send anything anymore.. but if she doesn't reply for tonight.. it's a rejection.. so maybe it's better to send some neg or something ? like "didn't your parents teach you manners.. it's verry rude to ignore someone lol" what should you guys do ? she already read my message.. but didn't reply, so i think she won't do it anymore unless i can get a response out of her with another message of me..

I really think she's into me + friends also say that..

but just don't know what to do now..

hope to hear from you guys

oyeah.. and her name is not james ofcourse.. its some kind of neg / joke..

It's a shit test. Forget about her and find another girl. Don't chase. Don't come off as needy.

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yes. this is correct.



no, just leave it alone like you said above and let her get back to you.

The thing is.. i always have to start the conversation on text.. but when we text she laughs.. and have a good conversation.. but still I always have to start.. so i think if i won't start again we won't ever talk anymore..

maybe it helps if i describe her.. she is definitly HB10, she's smart, down to earth but i think if you don't know her she can be really arrogant and she knows she's beautifull

So i really think i am the one who has to make the first step again. if it's not today then next week. so what should my reaction be and when ? do like as if nothing happened.. or.. ?

I know its kinda strange to believe for you guys that she's interested in me cause she never starts texting.. but i feel it.. and people who know her and know me and saw us together also said that she kept following me.. so it's kinda mixed up and i dont know what to think about it or how to react on it..

And what if she will reply tonight like.. hey yeah i live blablablabla.. see you at 8. what should i reply then? something like "i have something else now" ? or.. ?

and also if it's a shit-test.. i've read that on a shit-test you have to give the right reaction.. so here its like give no reaction at all ?? but what if its like i said.. i'm the one who always has to start.. and she's a girl who like to be chased..

oh i didnt realize the date wasnt supposed to happen yet. i thought you got flaked on. so theres still some chance itll go down? thats good. i def wouldnt give up in that case. id send her a text soon saying something like "hey 830 is better for me tonight. that work for you?"

if she doesnt respond or flakes on you then shes probably not interested. id stop chasing at that point. and if she texts you her address then of course you shouldnt say you have other plans. go out with her and have a great time.

also, this is MUCH more likely to be her not interested in you than just being some kinda shit test.

its true that for some hotter girls its all about persistency and chasing and you could eventually get them. maybe shes one of them. personally, though, i make it a policy to not chase. it just isnt worth it as theres likely tons of girls as hot as her with better personalities that actually want to spend time with you.

This is why I usually call girls to confirm phone dates. In general, I keep texting to an absolute minimum. I only use text to handle logistics and answer direct questions. Most guys over-text and it does way more harm than good.

-Wolf

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If she's still down to go out with you, you want to capitalize on the opportunity because you never know, she might be DTF. But you still have to punish her for not responding to you to confirm. You also don't want to seem too available.

If she responds back, I'd be like "Oh damn, well yea I'd like so see you, but the thing is I'm at my buddy's right now and he lives in BFE, and I still need to shower...I didn't know we were still on tonight, but I should be done helping him soon so I'll hit you up in a minute once I'm done."

You're not completely blowing her off, which would only be self-defeating in the end anyway. And you are showing you have your own things going on, are social proof, and not needy to see her.

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thx for the advice guys!

so what would you guys send then ?

she still didn't reply and i would meet her in 2 hours.. so if i wan't to date tonight im the one who has to send the message

i think its best if i send a message that confront her that she didn't reply..

Think if i send "hey what about 8.30" it's to obvious that im talking around the subject if you know what i mean..

maybe something like " woow! cool adress! lol " or "is that an invisible house? lol"

and i have to reply in a few minutes or else it will be to late.. so if anyone has an idea.. or else i will go for "woow! cool adres! is that the second road on the right? lol"

If I were there right now dude, I'd hold my hand out and make you run into it face first, that way I wouldn't even have to waste my own energy just to slap you.

Why are you trying to sabotage yourself? Seriously. You're all amped up over this one girl, counting down the seconds to something that's likely not going to happen. We need to nip this in the bud.

She didn't reply. The date is not going to happen. Forget about it and move on. Do you realize how needy and desperate it makes you look when you fixate like this? You can keep gaming her, but you are going to have to be patient and let time work to your advantage. I honestly don't think you can text your way back into this one, at least not today.

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DUDE, JUST CALL HER ON THE PHONE. Why is this complicated? If she doesn't pick, then it's a pretty sure sign that the date is off.

-Wolf

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hey guys,

there was a change that we would still date.. cause a few days ago we made an appointmant for today.. i thought it was best to make here react bye sending her some message.. and i followed the advice of "itsalwayson" by sending her a message.. i sended something.. and she sended back "sorry! late reply! i had something else to do.. i have a birthday tonight!" and after we made some small talk about that she would had to pay the next date, her night wouldn't be as interesting as spend it with me.. bla bla bla

i sended something cause if i didnt it would have been a rejection to, cause she wouldn't reply before the time we had an appointment.. so for me it was waiting till 8 and beeing rejected for not getting a reply.. or send a message and get a reply with some answers..

but hey.. sorry if i dissapointed you.. i just thought it was the best thing to do to send a message..

but now i wont send her anything anymore.. if she's really interested it's her turn

but now its like.. shoud i believe she had a birthday ?? and why she didnt reply in the morning? it feels like she's not interested.. but on the other hand.. i have the feeling she is interested and people who know us both say the same..

it's kinda confusing.. or maybe its cause im still to AFC