Not posted here before but hope you guys can give me a bit of advice...

Met this HB9.5 in a shop a couple of weeks back. She's works there I direct approached her and number closed within a couple of minutes. We went out Thursday. Took her to a bar for some drinks. She was shy at first. Bounced to another venue for dinner. She loosened up. After dinner bounced for more drinks where K-closed. Walked her home as I don't normally attempt F-close until the second date. leave them wanting more.

Friday a couple of texts saying last night was fun. Saturday text to see if she wants to do something Sunday night. She can't but suggesting meeting that evening. I told I've got plans early evening but could meet later. We go out. Tones of kino. A few different venues. K-close. She almost comes back to my house but has work in the morning and bails last minute. I think I might have got a bit needy at this point to try to get her to come back.

Sunday a couple of jokey texts between us. Monday I make a massive error and text saying 'it would be nice to see her again in the week'. I came off needy. AFC I know. She says she's busy all week but maybe at the weekend. I tell her I'm out of town at the weekend but I will get in touch.

Now to calibrate for the neediness do you reckon I should not text her until I'm back in town next week or do I need to keep a bit of communication going this week? Thoughts are appreciated.

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Since you already texted her about it, you're stuck in the needy zone right now, but I think that can be fixed.

What I would do, with my admittedly lesser experience, would be to make plans with her and then flake out the night before and maybe try to sneak in a DHV into the reason behind it.

"Hey, sorry to cancel last minute, but I completely forgot that I was supposed to give my friend Trisha a kickboxing lesson"

Maybe go with something a little more subtle than that, but in that excuse alone, you've said:

1) That by cancelling, you don't need her as much as she thought
2) Yes, you do hang out with other girls
3) You can kickbox! Hurray!


Obviously, mold this around a skill that you actually have, but I think it could work out.

Plus, it sets you up for an easy date with her if she has even the slightest interest in whatever skill you work with.

That was actually all very good, despite the critical mistake. But you recovered well by saying you were busy. Don't beat yourself up, sometimes we get comfortable and open ourselves up by being real people and saying how we feel, and of course women punish us mercilessly for that. So...back to gaming we go!

I'd wait a week and then start going by the coffee shop to see if she is there since you know where she works. It's better to talk to her in person if possible, otherwise she can blow off your texts or phone calls. Go in looking good and happy and immediately start telling her some DHV laced story about how awesome whatever you did on the weekend was. Then bullshit with her a minute and avoid asking her out right away. Get your coffee and start to leave then tell her you'll call her sometime and walk out the door. Wait two days, then call her.

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With you not being able to meet those times she won't think you're needy, a needy guy would cancel his plans so that he can meet up with her. By saying you would like to meet up with her in your text she'll either think you're a genuine guy or you're not wanting her to think she's not important to you, like when a needy guy gets flaked on a few times so the girl meets up with him because she feels a bit sorry for him.

Wow, please don't do this OP.

You did nothing wrong at all. It's only needy if you feel it coming from a needy place. If you want to chill with a girl and you know she's feeling you there's nothing wrong saying you'd like to see them again. If anything she'll be flattered. Just don't keep asking "when?" if she says she can't. She said maybe on the weekend simply text and even call her during week keep rapport going, make her laugh use the opportunities to keep attraction steady throughout the time and her mind preculating with thoughts of you . Then, as the weekend approaches it'll feel far more naturally in arranging a hangout.

totally agree with this. yeah the whole 'it would be nice to see you again in the week' thing is a tad bit AFC, but you certainly didnt make any kind of horrible mistake or be overly needy or anything. she seems to be genuinely interested (at least somewhat) and youve definitely still got a good chance imo.