I went out last night to some event for singles. 99% singles and now and then a couple come along who know someone there or something like that.

Caught the eye off a girl who is the type I go for. Petite'ish brunette but I was sure she was with some guy.
Saw her late on in the evening in the in another room in the building near a makeshift bar. Some other guys were chatting to her but I noticed that she had clocked me and the feet were pointed at me (I'm always watching feet direction). As the convo finished, she walked off and some other guys I know started talking to her at which point I seized the moment, introduced myself and asked 'how she knew these troublemakers'.
So we got chatting and it nearly went down the typical AFC - what do you do for a living etc., so I tried a different tactic. As she started to tell me what she did, I said 'Fuck it, It's boring.. lets talk about.. (and then I pointed to something on the wall).

We started getting on really well and I thought to myself I did really like this girl. I dont get that feeling very often. I asked her if she was single and she said no and pointed to a guy behind me who was her boyfriend. I let my frustration be known to her. Told her it was a shame as she was hot.. and she seemed to like it. She asked why I am single and made it clear that she thought I seemed a good catch. I asked if she 'was interested' and she replied that if she was single she would definitely go on a date with me. She said 'its ok, you are cool and we can be friends'. I thought this was fine. Something was telling me in the back of my mind that this was good for me in light of the situation and the 'friendship' thing was an angle for her too.

We actually then started talking about theatre and musicals and she said she actually wanted to see something new come out and that we should go together (WTF?!?) )

I actually then asked for her number but she said she wouldnt give it, just to find her on facebook ( understandable I suppose)

So then.. (check this out), the boyf walks over and we get introduced and she turns to him and says, 'this is X, we are going to go and see a musical together.' (WTF??! x 2)

He looked at her and did a half serious/half joking strop about 'oh ok then, so thats how it is' which she laughed off. I stayed and talked to him to try and be the big man infront of her and not wimper off. I then made an excuse and left.

about 20 mins later I was talking to friends and I could see her talking to him and her body facing me.. She then walked with him to the exit (past me) and then turned round facing me. I love to watch body language as I think it says so much.

I was on a big high after this. As it happens, another fitty (HB9) came into the room who I had friended a little bit anonymously on facebook that week. I plucked the guts to chat to her and did ok with that too. For me, that was a good night and as I had two recent dates go wrong, I needed the boost (felt like a boost anyway).

I went home and woke up today thinking of the first girl (with the bf).
I have found her on FB, but havent done anything yet.

Just wanted some thoughts and advice on how to handle this..

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Ok, so I was feeling quite confident after this last post 2 weeks ago... feeling a bit different now..

2 days later I sent her a friend request on Facebook.. now nearly 2 weeks later - nothing/no accept. Still pending.

I have noticed, because you can see this publicly, that one guy has been added recently on her facebook so she is obviously alive and using Facebook.

So why is this?. I dont know but there are some possibilities. The other thing I want to know is what I should do. I dont often click with girls and I did click with this one, so want advice/opinion.

thanks

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Long story short when a chick tells me she has a boyfriend to me it means nothing, I just game her like she was single, escalate, and F-close.

About 60% of chicks under 30 have or regularly cheat on their boyfriends.

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Well with all the IOI's I got, I would agree - certainly on this one.. but what would you do in my position now?

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I would recommend moving on. If you see her again, game her like normal. Maybe message her in a couple weeks just as a probing measure. But if no response or friend status update, then just move on and forget about her.

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ok. if I did message her (it has been 2 weeks.. do you mean another 2 weeks?)
,, what sort of approach should I use?..

Also, I know it sounds like a silly question, but why do you think she hasnt accepted the friend request after she seemed keen to go to the theatre together?!

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If she has a boyfriend leave her alone, don't be a dick.

Adam, I understand your logic.. but if she is happier in her relationship, then why the enthusiasm on the first meeting?

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You can't turn off your attraction to other people when you're in a relationship, no matter how much you like your partner, but she obviously wants to stay faithful to him. Either way how would you like to be with a girl who would go meet other guys behind her boyfriend's back? How would you like a guy to steal your girl? It's not good.

I understand what you mean about not being able to help being attracted. And I can sometimes tell when there is a girl who I am talking to who has a boyfriend, but she isnt going to do anything. The point I keep making is that she actually suggested we go to the theatre together and then announced it to the boyfriend..

Look, if she likes him - she will stay with him even if I have a good go at it. If she doesnt like him that much, this is an opportunity for her to get out.
I cant steal her. She is not money hanging out someone's wallet. She is an adult and can make her own decision...

maybe I will leave it. I just remember walking away from that conversation thinking that we really clicked and she was def. interested to some degree.

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She may not accept your friend request because her BF is controlling. Maybe it is because she likes you and it may show in ya'll FB posts and such. Maybe she is scared that if she lets you get close she will chat on her BF. Basically it does not matter why she has not accepted you as a FB friend!

What I see is you need some inner game work. Someone who is so incredibly worried like you obviously are, and overthinking every little detail like you are needs to get some "self reflection" accomplished. No matter what you felt for this girl for the VERY short period of time you spent with her, you seem very needy, and I promise you if I can sense it, every girl in the world can as well.

You have two choices, you can game this chick and not worry about the outcome, or you can suck it up and walk away. There are approx 4 billion other girls out there just waiting to confuse the fuck out of your brain.

Peace...

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haha.. good response

Im not sure if its needy as more the case of the fact that I meet alot of girls and cannot honestly remember the last time I really fancied a girl AND clicked with her, hence me trying to read the situation. maybe that is needy?.. I dont know.

I'm hard to please, but yes I was hoping someone would mention some of the points/reasons you have which is why I personally think her not adding me might be a slightly positive thing. If I was no threat and no chance of it happening, why care about adding me that much.

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