Getting out of friend zone



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PostPosted: Mon Oct 08, 2012 6:23 am 
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I met this girl last school year towards the end and we had sever encounters but I never really paid attention to her, and one night at a party she told me basically to screw her. I lost her at the party and I was way to messed up to find her. Well the summer went by and this school year we started talking. We saw each other a lot on gamedays but I never had the oppurtunity to make a move on her because she either had a friend with her right there or it was in the middle of the day and I was sober. Well anyways i got the feeling she was starting to use me so I called her out for it and she really wanted me. I then asked her out on a date and we went to eat and I was a little anxious during but not too rattled, and when I dropped her off we only hugged cause she had a meeting to go to right then(probably shouldve kissed her). Right after she texted me saying she thought she only wanted to be friends then I was an ass to her saying girls and guys are never friends then ignored her. I know this is stupid but I apologized 2 days later saying yeah its cool if we're friends. Then we had two convos after that. Then last week she called me asking me to pick her up from the bar (which is something that someone who is in the friend zone would do being whipped). I told her I was already at the bar and can't. I texted her the next day saying "stop asking for rides from the bar I know what you're doing" she responded "what are you talking about" I then said "I know youre just using me for a ride home". This could be the last interaction, but there is a chance she'll text me again, probably trying to get me to do a favor. I want her back, but Im satisfied with moving on. What would be the best thing for me to do.. Ignore her till maybe she texts me and just act indifferent?


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PostPosted: Mon Oct 08, 2012 6:41 am 
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Dude... sorry but you have some stuff to work on. You were pretty much an asshole and not in a good way. A ride home from a bar? That's what FRIENDS do. You know... the thing you told her you will be?

Girls and guys can't be friends? Bullshit. You can't "make a move" because you're sober? What the fuck!? You want her but you don't want her but you... I don't even know. Seriously, and I mean this in the nicest way possible, get your act together inside your own head before you do anything with her.

Stop over-thinking every little thing, figure out what you want and stick to it.

Are you actually ok being friends? If yes then don't get your panties in a bunch when she asks for a favor, either say yes if you wanna do a favor for a friend or no if you don't. Its quite simple. Treat her like a friend, not like a girl who friendzoned/whipped you.

Are you NOT ok with being friends? Then tell her that. Tell her WHY as well. Don't be a jerk about it, just be honest and direct. Then stop talking to her and move on.

If you want some other 3rd option then tell us what it is, from your post I'm not even sure what you want so I can't help you much.


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PostPosted: Mon Oct 08, 2012 7:01 am 
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just stop sending her mixed messages, and you will be out of the friend zone, actually try to bang her, be sure you like her, and stick to your guns, she wants to be friends ''ok sure'', speak with your actions more then your words, ''SHOW HER'' you are more then friends, rather then trying to convince her you are not, while ''SHOWING HER'' that you are

she's not going to sit you down alone, start kissing your cheek then move down to your neck, she's not going to start rubbing your cock saying ''don't worry it'll be ok, we can keep this a secret'', she's not going to try to handle your LMR, she already tried to hit you up and it seems got rejected

the friend zone doesn't exist, she doesn't think you will make it happen and she's not going to risk looking like a slut and showing her interest (unless she can say she was soo drunk she can't remeber *1 drink is enough to justify this*) and the last time she did, she got rejected, so from her point of view it probably is very clear that you seem to not know what you want, and she possibly even feels you don't like her enough, maybe she even resents that you didn't reciprocate with her when she put herself out there like that

the friend zone is just some fairy tale, the girl either likes you enough to be alone with you and trusts you when you escalate, or she doesn't, being a friend with a girl doesn't matter, being an enemy with a girl doesn't matter, she can sleep with you after being your friend for a year if she is attracted, she can also sleep with you if she thinks your annoying, she either is down, or she is not down, and her saying you should just be friends is just a false barrier, she can straight out say, ''ohh this is my gay friend'', doesn't matter, if you just show some intent, put your mouth on her mouth and that is what she likes it, you can both suck each others faces, and if the logistics are good and you have seen a vagina before, who knows, could end in sex

but for that to happen, less reaction, more action, she goes ''BLAH BLAH FRIENDS BLAH'', just shake your head in agreement and kiss her, see what she does, she doesn't let it go down?, you can't help yourself, she's such a good friend, she's really (list qualities that you like about her, caring, confident, warm, blah, blah, blah), you guys shouldn't be around each other because you can't stop thinking about kissing her

less acting like a friend, more acting like you are going to bang her, stop reacting to her and what she wants, start being more certain of yourself, and acting out what you want, independant from her approval

if she is truly not interested, she will show you by not putting herself in a situation with you were escalation can happen in the future, if you don't want to be her platonic friend, then don't act like one, stop trying to convince her, just set the logistics up, make her horny and make it happen, commit to it


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