Hi there,
So I am new to this board but not to game. By way of introduction I'm 34, I live in London (UK), have a good job, education and am lucky enough not to have hit every branch on the ugly tree
I tend to prefer to go to high-end venues in London.
I am, however, recently single after a long term relationship and as a consequence I am chipping the rust off of certain elements of my game. There is one scenario that I am currently in the middle of and I am interested to get some perspective on it from the people on this board.
The scenario is this: Friday night on Walton Street. For those that don't know Walton Street, it is a district in the not so shabby South Kensington, where there is a string of bars populated with girls that are like no other girls on the planet. It is an international schmorgazboard of the best that the entire EMEA region has to offer, all looking to hang with Arab millionaires and Russian billionaires. In terms of looks, I would quite happily put these girls up against the best of the best that you would find in LA, Miami, Paris, Milan... you name it. Best of all there is no stupid door policy, so as long as you dress reasonably there is never any issue with entry etc. It is a truly awesome place.
So I was in one of these bars, Jak's, with friends. We have just finished up with a set where I was winging my friend, who was talking to this amazonian catwalk model (she must have been 6'4" in heels) whilst I babysat her not so hot but extremely arrogant Emirati girl friend. I go to the bar to get the next round of drinks in and start talking to these two blonde girls who are also at the bar. Initially I thought they were Russian (never good) but soon discover they are Swedish (very good). To be clear, these girls were on a different planet to every other girl in an impeccable room. Both around 5'9", model figures, blonde, stunning faces with perfect bone structure. If I had had to walk up to them from across the room I would have talked my way out of it before I'd even reached them. Being right next to them at the bar though I was talking to them before I even realised I was in way over my head.
The first girl wasn't interested. Quite flat. The second however was positive and engaged with me readily. We get talking about all kinds of things: steak, sushi and good sushi restaurants in town, 50 Shades of Grey (she couldn't get past half way through as it was so boring), her studies in international marketing... It's a good, positive, and free flowing chat with some kino from me and smiles from her. She's clearly a bit of an international jetset girl and, whilst she clearly knows she is very hot she is also relatively cool. However, after 20 minutes I feel the momentum is about to take a bit of a dip and I decide it is best to leave the set on a high rather than wear things down. Also, two of my wingmen for the night had already come over at various points and immediately shrivelled up in the heat that emanated from these girls, so there was going to be no way to connect our groups up and we were going to have to move on elsewhere. I was going to have to follow up with this girl another time one-on-one.
I go for the number close. I give her my phone and she puts her name (Josephine) and digits in. I say thanks, wish her a good night and say that hopefully we'll catch up soon. I go back to my group and encourage them to leave (I don't want to stand around gormlessly on the other side of the room from her as I think it will look odd). They are keen to move on anyway so we wander down the road to another bar. At this point I text Josephine the following:
"As thought, we have bounced. Very nice to meet you though. Hopefully we can catch up another time for a proper debate about the merits of steak vs sushi
"
I leave it at that. The night goes on. I don't hear from Josephine. On Saturday I also do not hear anything from her at all, not a
This leads me to the present day and my query is basically "what do I next"? Is it acceptable to send a follow up text again, even though she has not responded at all to my first initial message? If so, how long should I wait and what would people recommend as being the style of the message itself?
Alternatively, and perhaps bolder, I was recommended by a friend to call the girl directly. The logic was that:
1 - Girls appreciate calls more than texts as it makes you stand out in a sea of crappy text messages that the girl is undoubtedly getting.
2 - Scandinavian girls in particular respond better to a more direct approach.
3 - Calling rather than texting is gutsier and girls know it.
However, my concern is whether she may possibly get weirded out by this move. Is is possible that she might consider this overly aggressive?
Either way, it would be interesting to get a view from people about how they would deal with the scenario in terms of timing and what to include in the content of their message.
Currently my view is that I will put a call in tomorrow afternoon, saying I've only got 10 minutes before I have to go to the gym for my gym class (i.e. time constraint + dropping in that I keep in shape), then do some conversational fluff with her around how our respective weekends have gone so far, followed by saying that I wanted to take her out to one of the sushi restaurants that we had talked about and was she free on Wednesday.
Anyway, please feel free to pick this apart! All constructive criticism greatly appreciated.
Muchas gracias
CHAT