A bit of a rant I suppose...

Was out with my mates earlier and they were all getting relative success compared to me who was just more or less wandering around following them and not approaching anyone.

I would say i'm a fairly desirable kinda guy, I know how to treat women, i'm not exactly bad looking and i'm happy with most of the rest of my life. However, recently there's been such a god awful dry spell. It's to the extent that getting a date with someone just seems outright impossible!

I've heard that there's very much a snowball effect with all this, but i'm finding it difficult to get the snowball rolling in the first place...

One girl I met escaped me a few months back (she went off to another country) and another continues to confuse me. Does she want me, does she not?

I don't know if it's horrible one-itis going on, but I feel like such a broken man right now. It's to the point where I actually feel so much less attractive and less confident about myself than I would have felt maybe 4 months ago.

I've been trying to start properly with all the game stuff but i'm very much a newbie and it's been very tough. I hardly know what i'm doing! I haven't got anything i'd call success, and I still can't approach girls without being pushed into it by a wing or something.

So, I have to ask, what's the solution here?! How can I change everything around?

I would recommend taking a variety of classes where you might meet some cool women.

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xannn, you just need to work on your confidence. The only way to do that, really, is to start believing in yourself in whatever way you can. Improve yourself.

Go to the gym more often. Dress smarter/better. Get a haircut before you go out.

These sorts of things all worked for me, they're just a little booster if you're feeling lower.

And it's all about experience, too. The more you do things, the more you practice them (talking to hot women in clubs, etc) the better you get... if only because you start getting less nervous eventually.

You just have to believe that YOU'RE the prize, not these women. What the hell have they done with their lives that is so special? Some girls, who are good looking, get told how special they are all the time - the reality is, they're not. If you're a clever guy, or you have something good lined up in your future, you're more valuble than a hundred HB7's.

I've tried all of them three things and the success hasn't picked up at all. I've always worked out at the gym but have been taking a break recently to branch out and do other sports. I've been trying to update my wardrobe and look better (probably need more help with this). I always have impeccable hair when I go out.

Still, you're right. It's almost like i'm not seeing myself as deserving a nice woman and i'm just cockblocking myself. I need to get past these mental blocks really...

It's not an easy thing to do. But nothing worth getting is easy. It's like everything else in life, you just have to work at it. If you're trying to think of ways to sort things out, you're already on the right track though.

Personally, I think you have to move on from this girl on the other country. Telling someone they gotta deal with their oneitus somehow when I have it myself is a bit hypocritical, but man, if she's in another country, then it's done with. No need to break off contact completely, just have no expectations, and assume it's pointless trying. There are plenty more nice women out there.