Alright guys, first time poster here. I'm in need of a little help here and wasn't quite sure where to go. Hope this is the right place.

First a little background... My whole life I've pretty much been a beta. I had tons of gorgeous friends in high school and everyone thought I was really good looking, but I had the nice guy mentality of treating girls right and yada yada, never really hooking up with many girls or getting laid. I got to college, got laid, then started dating one of the first girls I had sex with. We dated about a year and a half and just broke up before this summer. I went abroad, completely changed my mentality with girls (mostly due to the ex being a little clingy and crazy) and hooked up a lot. I'm now a junior in college and after an awesome summer and a good start to the semester, I'm slowly creeping back to beta.

tl;dr... long time beta, broke up with gf and started doing alpha things

The problem: Last week I ran into a girl I had hooked up (not sex, but this girl is gorgeous) while I was dating the girlfriend at the time. We were both drunk and hit it off really well. Got her number. Started texting her a little. Since I had to wait a week until I could go out and drink with her again I asked her to lunch so it wasn't just texting, which again went well. This weekend is where the problems start.

I was planning on meeting with this girl downtown. I ended up getting really hammered, I blacked out and don't remember a damn thing. I woke up with the girl in my bed. Afterwards we talked and she made me seem really embarrassing. I was apparently buying her drinks all night, ignoring my friends to talk to her, repeating myself a lot, and probably acting more excited to see her than I should have. Basically doing dumb beta shit. Of course when I heard all this I paniced, again acting a little more beta than I should have, trying to feel out if she had lost attraction for me from it. We didn't have sex the night before cause I couldn't get it up. My friend who was with us all night said I wasn't nearly that bad, which gives me hope. So I texted her later the next day, surprised to actually get a response. We talked a little but I can't help but feel beta right now, like she has the upper hand, leading me along a leash because I don't know if she's attracted to me anymore.

Here's where I'm at out. I've got a whole nother week before we can drink and I can try to make something happen. Should I let up for a little? I was thinking not text her for a couple days then see if she wants to grab lunch again before the weekend? I know lunch isn't a favorite but I'm not trying to take it to seriously and would like to be able to talk to her over just texting her all the time. Or am I done for? Some tips would be much appreciated, I need to get out of this beta phase quick before I do any more damage.

Rule #1 to game, go out sober, don't drink.

Rule #2 to game, get more girls

Result?

You won't be a beta.

I would probably not initiate contact for 1-2 days. A lunch would be a good opportunity to put yourself back in a high value position, so if you game it right, you'll easily close her this weekend.

Call her on Wednesday and try and arrange a meeting during Thursday or Friday - Establish high value - When you go out she'll frame you as alpha and will put your actions in that mentality. (unless you REALLY screw up somehow)

And as VietnameseProdigy said, going out sober does wonders to your game! It's ridiculous how much simpler it is to get girls when you're not shitfaced!

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Alea iacta est - The die has been cast

I suggest you stop placing so much value on her! If you give her more value than you give yourself then you will run her off. Make yourself your priority, and have her tag along with you.

Note: If you are getting so drunk that you "Black out" then I say you should skip the alcohol.


Peace...

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Crypto...
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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood

I'm definitely going to be watching my drinking this weekend. The past few weeks I've noticed it getting worse so I'll probably just stick to a few to be social. I'll pull back for a couple days to get my head straight and ask her out again later this week. Thanks for the advice!