Once you're into conversation with a girl I'm having trouble escalating...i.e. the conversation moves to the boring 'so what do you do' etc and not where it should.

What techniques do you use for escalating and taking the conversation the way it should go and do you have any good tips or 'games' for getting escalation? Please don't mention palm reading!! Something more natural and/or fun.

put your arm around her, pull her in

Hey man kino plays a large part in the process but it is something that has to have good timing and has to be natural. Palm reading seems kind of retarded to me but some guys can pull it off. Do not go out of your way to do kino if it is not a good time for it. Kino can be anything really where it fits in. For example maybe when you are talking to a girl and she says something cool or you have a moment together you can put your hand up and say "that's awesome high five" poof instant kino. Just basically make it happen as you guys mess around. As far as taking the conversation where you want it to go talk about the things that are interesting to you. Many guys will find themselves unable to talk but in reality you literally can talk about anything you want to so long as you do not feel awkward when you are talking about it.

Remember, keep your game natural and keep it fun.

Tell her she has small hands then put yours out like for a high five. Tell her to put hers against yours so you can compare size. While its there keep it there and tell her how a man's hand size indicates dick size. Then snap your hand shut over her hand like a fist and keep it there for as long as she'll let you. This will make her laugh and might make her wonder. Perfect kino for me because I have MASSIVE hands!!

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Just fucking touch her.

just touch her, you don't need a method, if she likes you and finds you attractive she will be happy you did and most likely touch you back

if she freaks out or doesn't like it, most likely you will have difficulty sleeping with that girl (assuming your touch wasn't extremely innapropriate)

The conversation element is controlled by you. Ever been talking to a girl and she changed the subject to something really boring? Want to know the secret to make it exciting again? Change the topic. It doesn't even have to transition. Just change it to something you find interesting or something completely random.

She might even be impressed that you took the conversation somewhere more exciting. You are the one leading the conversation. Like Kino this might feel awkard at first. You might be worried about interrupting her or coming across as rude. With time and practice you will get the hang of it and you can say good-bye to all those shitty conversations.
The element I have put in bold I feel is your sticking point. Your emphasis to the way it should go suggests to me you are following a certain way of doing things to other peoples expectations not your own. Rather than doing this it should go the way you want it to go. Whether that be a one night stand or making a new friend.

In my opinion the reason you have a difficult time escalating with women is that you are not 100% comfortable with it. The idea of touching a woman might unnerve you a little, I know it did for me. If you never done Kino before, it's a huge difference for when you do.

Have a look at the Escalation Ladder. It will help you understand how Kino should progress. That being said, next time you talk to a girl, touch her. It might feel unnatural at first or be too focused but it doesn't matter. You still touched her. You pushed past your comfort zone.

Sooner or later you will get use to Kino/Escalation and it will become second nature. The trick is to keep pushing yourself out of your comfort zone, there is no method to doing this. It's just going for it even if your nervous as fuck. It is a way that will help you learn more effectivily. You'll might even be shocked at how far some girls will let you go.

- Kang