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PostPosted: Fri Sep 28, 2012 4:37 pm 
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So I am getting discouraged lately, at least on some level.

I was out of the game for probably 6-8 months, intentionally. Slept with a few girls, went on a few dates, etc but mostly not.

Fast forward to this month.

I'm now ok with meeting girls again. And I'm doing abysmally.

I mean, I should clarify - I'm not a total newbie, I can get girls, just not of the quality I want most of the time (For example, I made out with a girl and her friend last night, and got both of their numbers. Could have probably fucked one of them, but didn't pursue sufficiently). I've got plenty of girls who want to hang out with me, I just don't really like them.

This is discouraging me - I don't want to keep sleeping with girls who I find only nominally attractive. I'm short, but I'm not particularly ugly myself. I find nightclubs difficult to pull, because most of my game is wit/humor based.

How do I deal with bouts of discouragement? How can I transition to higher quality girls?


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PostPosted: Fri Sep 28, 2012 4:44 pm 
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It's a video game, if you implode or are blown out, guess what you hit reload and continue forth.

You'll only get good working game on more attractive women by, can you guess?? Approaching more attractive women! You're honing a skill, see it as such. Don't take things too seriously, don't even take yourself too seriously and just enjoy the learning curve.


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PostPosted: Fri Sep 28, 2012 5:17 pm 
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I'd set goals for yourself and have consequences (if) you don't succeed. I had a buddy, who at the time, was into PUA. We both wrote down goals for the week. Whichever one of us failed that person had to buy a few lbs of wings for the other. Good motivation factor for us.

Since your past the early stages I'd go with things like "Get 10 HB8 numbers, 5 HB9 numbers, 3HB10 numbers for the week." "Bang a HB9 blonde this week. Bang a HB9 red-head this week." and so on and so fourth. Change it up, maybe game different types of women to gauge which ones interest you more. Hair-colour being the obvious choice but you could look into the style (Ie, nerd, goth, etc.).

Or simply try different places to game, maybe you'll find that "higher" woman that you want. You say you don't like nightclubs too much, why not keep improving your game there? Use it as motivation to add another element to your game.


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PostPosted: Fri Sep 28, 2012 5:58 pm 
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I have been increasing my nightclub game - it was even worse before.

I'm way way way better at day game (though I went on a date with a girl recently and utterly failed - I liked her too much).

Good idea on the goals and consequences too.

Maybe I'll force myself to do a harder workout if I don't do what I need to do.

I've been doing better at the "not caring" vibe. I was pretty much completely non-caring last night.

I am also going to try to switch it up and try different venues.


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