ok so me and this girl have been best friends all thru out hs. nd now i feel as tho its time for me to break down that wall of friendship and make sum more of our relationship. ok well we txt every now and agin sents she moved to Houston for school
and we tlk bout relationships we have with other people and now were both in that zone of trust no one. we have no boundaries that im aware of, besides the whole friend zone thing, we joke around alot and its just more of a wat the hell do i gotta do to get her to start thinkin bout me. and us. wat i need is a good routine to run on her, or a good example or sum idk. is this a lost cause cuz of our history.
thanks in advanced guys, all input is appreciated

Tough call, you've known her such a long time that any 'routine' will come off as inauthentic. You two clearly have established trust, if the attraction is there its there, if its not, it's extremely difficult to build it. I'd take the direct approach and simply ask if she'd like to explore the relationship further. You can't really employ pickup in a situation like this, even still the direct authentic approach is, in most cases, the best.

yea thats wat i was thinkin, but it sounds kinda needy once u look back on it. any who thanks

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seems needy? if she's as close as you're implying then why would she care if you seemed needy? take a chance, if you fuck it up then you fuck it up, or live the rest of your life thinking what if. at least you'll know, the least you deserve is disclosure.

If it fucks up your friendship then there's something's in life that just happen and you've got to deal with them, not let them run you down or make you pussy out. The longer it takes you to grow a sack and tell her the longer she goes believing your not interested. Stop looking for the perfect moment, it may never come, stop believing if you're meant to be then it will happen. Some things in life you have to work for if you truly want it, and that begs the only question, how much do you fucking want it?

might come across as aggressive but it's the best way to get the message through to people. everyone has their own ways of dealing with a situation, this is mine. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. Take a chance or wait it out till she finds someone else which you will be told all about as you're her best friend. That will hurt a lot more than possible rejection.

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You can definitely take a more aggressive approach with her, but if you value the friendship you'll run the risk of ruining it.

The chances of you dating her are pretty low, to be honest. If she has fallen for you already (and you're unaware of that apparently), it's a different situation and there's nothing to worry about. But from what I can guess, yours is that scenario where between the two friends, one of them falls for the other first. The most probably outcome is rejection due to being well-settled in her friend-zone.

You might be able to avert this outcome if you make her fall for you without first letting her know that you like her. This will, for her, make the situation totally opposite and bring her in your position and you in hers. So, long story short, create attraction & sexual tension (which will be the hardest part) first, make her desire your affection more than you desire hers, break away from the friend-zone.

Again, this will be very difficult with marginal chances of success, so call your shots carefully.

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