Heres the story. When I was around 6 -7 years old, I had a major crush on this girl. (what can I say, early bloomer ). Anyways she was only up here visiting relatives during the summer. When she left for home, I sent her a postcard asking her if she would be my GF. I know it was a stupid afc thing to do, but you got to realize I was only 7 years old at the time.

I am finally going to meet up with her in a couple days, after all these years Im sure it might be a bit awkward. Ive seen a pic of her lately and Damn, puberty did it right! She is at least an HB9.

How can I make the meeting less awkward, Im sure the topic of the postcard will come up. All I can think of right now is neg her with "I couldnt help it, you used to be so cute" sorta implying that she isnt cute now. (I think she has a BF now but i dont know how serious it is)

Any tips?

bump?

man sounds like an interesting story. Seems to me, all you gotta do is just break the ice really. The neg doesn't sound bad. Just don't make it seemed forced. Don't sweat it to much. You'll be alright hermano. Keep us updated on your story. I'm really rootin for yah

The whole concept of negging is so ridiculous to me. Being psychologically minded I find it counterproductive to wining favor with anyone by striking at their insecurities. If anything, they'll associate you with negative feelings (without really knowing why in most instances). Being cocky funny is one thing, negging somebody to 'devalue' them in hopes of making her perceive you as higher value is one of the most outlandish, laughable concepts in PUA I've ever come across.

Negging actually works when used properly. Their is no one right way to game a girl. Just different styles and techniques to deliver different outcomes. They don't call it art for nothin

You're WAY hyperbolizing the negativity of negging. If you can neg properly, do it. If you can't, don't do it. It shouldn't be your MAIN strategy.


In my eyes, for a neg to work, it should never attack what a person looks like or any obvious insecurities they might have. I've negged way before I got into the game and I always used it as a sardonic comment that MAY be taken as an insult by somebody who DOESN'T have ANY sense of humor. Just make sure you sound as sarcastic as you can. If you're talking about a person's looks or insecurities, they might think that you're using sarcasm to veer from any responsibility of just directly insulting them.

A variation of a neg which I always use is using nicknames. When I first met one of my ex's in college, we small talked and she told me about her graduating soon and not having anything to do and having to find somewhere new to live, so I called her a bum several times. I knew that she had feelings for me, so I called her bud a few times, which she didn't like but knew I was kidding. She was older than me, so I called her a cougar all the time. I just did it as sarcastically as I could, obviously just joking around. It reminds her of things SHE might think are unfavorable (when I don't give a fuck about them), which is also the goal of a neg. It's just more playful and isn't perceived as though you're actually meaning anything bad behind it.

Regarding your situation, that neg isn't bad. If you deliver anything right, nothing is bad. You're not going to SNL her, and I'm assuming you have her number. Just be confident and remember that you're the fucking treat. In your eyes, and in her eyes, she wants to meet up with you. Let the postcard come up, be confident as all hell about it, use your neg, laugh, and continue with your conversation. Try to build up some tension between you two when you meet. Use some sexual innuendos once she's more comfortable. Remember, she's not a stranger. The situation should be much more relaxed. You wanna build up the tension for the next time you meet. Strawman her boyfriend for a bit, it won't do any damage to you and might actually help you build hidden rapport with her. I don't know where you guys are meeting or any details, so I can't suggest anything specific. It should be just like a day 1 but more relaxed. DHV yourself, but don't sound too cocky. And I would suggest initiating getting out of there (you gotta meet up with somebody, somebody who you could DHV yourself through) and suggesting to meet up again. If you don't have the number, get it at this point. If you do, tell her you'll hit her up and try to fit her in your schedule.

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