Alright guys I'm in a difficult situation right now, it's about a girl i've been friends with a pretty decent amount of time now. And I feel like , I'm developing feelings for her now.. (This has happend to me with different girls a few times in my life before).

So before I had feelings for her, I used to help her out with her problems, and so did she for me. She used to be anorexic, her parents sadly weren't always there for her. I was the only one who knew about this, so I helped her as much as I could. I didn't had any feeling for her back then, we only kissed a few times before, and we did some fingering etc. no sex though, but there were no feelings whatsoever, just fun. So things became more intense and we were talking about a relationship, but it didn't work out because I had to move out of town for 5 months. We decided to be friends, best friends, and I really enjoyed that. She is really cool to hang out with, and she is a good wing.

We also talk about people we are dating, and I honestly always feel good if she has a nice person to date. When I'm dating someone and she knows this, she tells me she is happy for me, but I can sense she is jelous..

SO HERE IS THE PROBLEM.

At the moment she is chasing some kind of guy that is not into her at all, he is probably gay, atleast everybody tell me so. He's not giving any attention to her, not replying texts, not escalating fysically if she wants to.

She's stil chasing him.

Funny thing happend though,

She was hinting to me that she needed a place to sleep at the town i live in. Told her why etc. And eventually offered here to sleep at my place, told her she could sleep in my other room.

She told me that was cool, and when she arrived at my place, she was hinting she wanted to sleep with me in my bed. I told her that was ok..

But I had told myself already that I shouldn't make a move on her, because I want to keep her as my friend. So I didn't escalate fysically, and we talked about the people we were dating. Then we went to sleep, and the whole night she cuddled and slept against me.

The problem now is that I started to feel more than friends.. But I don't really know what to do. I appreciate that she is chasing that "gay" guy, but somehow my feelings tell me to start to tell her I got feelings again for her.

How can I do this without actually coming of as a needy little bitch? (When we were dating before, and I had to move out of town, she told me it would have been better to stay friends anyway). As she did also not want to lose me as friend.

On the other side, I do want a relationship with her, but I also don't want to lose her as my friend..

I appreciate youre advices.

PositiveVibe

So she wanted to fuck, but you chickened out, and NOW you want another chance?

I get it.

Come up with some lame ass excuse to get her back to your place, make sure she will be late enough to stay. Then Flirt, Kino, Escalate. THEN by god FUCK her this time!

It will be a little harder this time, because you did not follow through last time, but if you get her alone again....then FOLLOW THROUGH!

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I really thought she wasn't coming over for sex. Because she was clearly telling me she like this other guy..

So just invite her again, ignore what she says about that guy, and fuck her, how do I even show intent now that I didn't fuck her?

Yes, listen politely, subtly change the subject, get a sexual vibe with lots of kino going!

You have already built comfort, ask her if other girls would think your a good kisser, then kiss HER! Then move forward...pull back a little, then rinse repeat!

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Ok good idea! Already thought of an excuse to make her sleep over again. Last time she was hinting me to sleep over at my place, she wanted to go do sports with me in the morning at 6. But the club we are both still member of is like 80 miles away from her and only 10 miles for me.

I'll just ask her to do this again next week, so if I start to make our conversations a little more sexual, she will not be in shock and flip out if I start to escalate on her? And will she actually want to risk the comfort she has with me, by sleeping with me?

Perfect, It's a no brain-er. I'll give you Heywood's version if I were laying it out:

"Hey Kitten! (Insert your own nickname) I'm going to the club on _______day in the morning, you are going with me! Wear something tight, bring PJs if your playing shy!"

But that's me.

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Er well maybe not quite so direct as Heywood but he is used to Florida Blonds and they only respect hard and hardest

Simply advice works best all round.

Get her to your place, food, drinks, tease, kino, fuck.

Ball game over.

Any girl who comes to my place let alone in bed with me will get fucked 100% of the time.

That's why they come over in the first place but as men we often miss the most simple and obvious signs. They really do know what they are doing.

An invitation to fuck is a short window, when it closes a lot of women will decidedly not open it again for the guy, in spite of how horny she may be.

Effin' bitches!!

Charm school was rough Brosuf! That wink looks gay! who made these emocons? Homo's?

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

You've probably already missed your chance!

The moment a woman wants to be in your bed with you, she is down to FUCK! Can't believe you missed your chance.

If you're lucky enough to be given another chance, immediately start heavy eye contact before kissing her in bed, do not hesitate.

ESCALATE.

Can't believe I was so blind to see this! My mind was somehow not recognizing this pattern. So I actually had to ignore her stories about other guys she's into? I thought that by her telling me this, she wasn't into fucking me. So I clearly made a huge mistake?

Also when I told her goodnight, she kept bringing stuff up to keep me awake, now that i think about it.. she just wanted me to fuck her..

Aw I feel like I made a stupid mistake, but hey, I at least learned from this!

yeah, just get yourself in the position again, seems like she kinda wants it to, so don't take no for an answer.

Back in the day in HS a cute little HB8 crawled into bed with me at a mutual friends house after a party one night in nothing but her skin, and I wrapped my arms around her and went to sleep. Needless to say I was still an AFC and a Virgin the next morning! Fast forward 20 years, bump into her at the HS Reunion, and she tells me flat out "I wanted you to fuck me that night!"

Moral of the story, don't miss your opportunities!


Peace...

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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood