Hello everyone! I have a girl coming to my apartment this weekend and I would appreciate if you could give me some piece of advice and review my current plan. Stay with me, this is a long one. My comments will be in
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So this girl is a former co-worker. I would be supposed to see her again in December when I’ll work again, but as she told me, she is coming over because she has an interview (probably for a new job…). To describe the situation quickly, there has always been (from what I can feel) a little bit of sexual tension between us. When I say sexual tension, I refer to sexual comments, kino (hugging, walking arms is arms, etc) sexual conversations, semi-genuine sexual propositions. You know, the who-knows-what-could-happen-between-us--with-a-little-alcool kind of girl!
So, she is coming to my place this weekend and here’s our FB conversation (translated from French):
Her : Heyyy NorthBoy I have something to ask you
I have been called for an interview in (my city) next Saturday at 8h00am LOLLL ;P Could you accomotade (not sure, comes from the word “héberger”) for Friday night plz ;P! If you’re not in (the previous place where I lived) of course! A lil nice sofa , I wouldn’t say no! ;P
Me: Saturday the 22th or next week?
Trying to be non-needy
Her: Next week, Saturday the 29th but I’d come Friday night so it wouldn’t be too tight :s in the morning because it’s early (basically, she doesn’t want to be late so she arrives the day before)
Me: It should be ok but I’ll have to come back on it tomorrow!
Again, being nice but non-needy
Her: Okiiidouuuu
talk to your roommate and I absolutely don’t want to disturb you!! Srsly if it puts you in trouble or you’re not ok with it don’t hesitate to tell me!!
Me: Haha it would be a pleasure to welcome you in my place
Trying to build some comfort
Her: Perfeect I’ll wait to hear from you! The sooner the better
Me: I just talked to her! Come see me in (my city) Friday! I don’t know if you planned to do something in the evening, but I’ll probably be boring because I have a lot of schoolwork ;P
trying to be non-threatening and keeping comfort
Her: Hahah no problem we’ll study ;P
(of course we’ll not cuz I plan to give you the best sex you ever had!!) I have a lot of workk too that’s crazyyy :s and I have my interview in the morning so I must be in shape
!! ps. Where do you live exactly so my friend google map can help me xD pss : a biiiig THANKS NorthBoy I owe you one!!
Me: Look at (my street address)
Me: (my postal code) ;P
trying to show non-neediness + sending mixed signals from my previous compliance
Her: Perfectooo and it’s only 30-35 minutes of walking and 20-25 min of bus from my intervieeew ;P A big thankssss in advance!! Ps Is there an hour you would like me to arrive ?
Me: You could come around 18h00 we could have dinner together!
Wrong choice of word I know, I shoud me more dominant
To summarize, my plan is to welcome her, show her around so she could get comfortable in my place. Then, I would finish cooking and we’d eat together. I told her we would study, so I have two possible plans. 1- In fact we study and while we are in my room I escalate and try to make it happen (we can still drink at my place). 2- I text her before she comes to put her in a fun state of mind and I tell her that we are going out instead of studying. Then we come back and I try to make it happen. What are your thoughts?
CHAT