I was out with this girl the other night, she's hot. Like an 8 or a 9. All going well,

we're talking about sex and things like that (I've know her a while), then I said something along the lines of "I'm shy too" and she said "oh so we're talking about you know are we?" in a joking way. Shit test?

Fast forward, dancefloor. Not my forte in life! her.. "dont look around at other people thinking about what their thinking, who cares!" She literally read me and I didn't even realize I was doing it.

Fast forward 2 hours later, I loosen up and we're kissing. which was cool!

Anyway, I kind of like this one, but feel she can probably pick up on my insecurities easily.

Thoughts?

peace

Since hotter girls have more experience in socializing and going out they can read body language better than most men.

Am i correct that you said to her "I'm shy too" because she said so and you tried to 'make an connection' by saying the same thing? If so, she saw through 'your tactics' and basically ball busted aka shit tested you on it.

Don't feel bad about it. Girls use tactics on guys all the time and if you notice it, ball bust them/shit test jokingly on it as well.

The dance floor thing. Go in a nightclub and just look at the people. Basically 90% are looking more often than not at other people. Girls have experienced this before and so they know this. This is very true especially with dancing couples.

Girls are naturals when it comes to reading body language. Basically because they need the skill before a baby learns to talk.

She is obviously reading you quite a lot, and pays much attention to you, which can only be seen as clear IOI's (that you made out with her later on kinda makes that obvious)

"dont look around at other people thinking about what their thinking, who cares!"
I'm not sure if I would call this a shit test, it sounds to me as more of a "Don't be nervous, let's just enjoy the moment!"

Girls will ALWAYS run shit tests on guys when they're attracted to them. My favorite way to pass these is by blowing them out of proportion. So given that the previous statement were a shit test, I would most likley reply something like "But.. but.. What if they'll make fun of me? And say mean things? And bully me around?" In a kind of sobby way, and then smile as to make the irony clear.

Anyway, it would seem that you have a good shot with this girl (based on what you've written so far), so I wouldn't worry too much about those shit tests. When you're out in the field, your brain can be your best friend and your worst enemy. Just go with the flow, and don't think


- The Dice

Dice is exactly right. You will be shit tested by girls for the rest of your life. React in a way that would not be typical and you should be golden.


Peace...

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Yea, instead of acknowledging her cold read with a telling look and and an admission of guilt, just kind of shake your head and be like "No, it's just that girl over there looks like this chick I used to work with. Can't tell if its her or not."
That'll make her jealous and shut down her cold reading aspirations for the time being.

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thanks everyone. I appreciate ye're answers.

Also, Brok3n it wasn't that she was saying she was shy , she was saying about another guy in the past being shy. Long story!! Anyway I was saying I was too to that.

@Dice, cheers dude I never really thought about it that way!

Careful. I was hanging around with a girl just like this one. Don't let her run over you. Pick up on her experience and go along with it.

Xasthur, I know that feeling. Thanks

I wouldn't read too much into it, I think she's simply trying to be playful, but at the asme time probably wants you to throw it back at her. You can interpret her as trying to take the lead in a discrete way, but in all reality she's probably more interested in seeing if you can keep up with her whit wise.

@Heavy Rota8ion Yeah, thats a good way of looking at it, I have a tendency to overthink things. It's weird, when I'm on form I'm lethal and can keep up/lead no prob. When I'm extremely tired or whatever I don't have the heart for it. Cheers dude