Alright everyone I'm new here and any insight would be greatly appreciated!


I recently moved to Vancouver and pulled a solid HB9 off of POF (Using an opener from the online section here FYI). I kiss closed her first date and F closed her on the third date. After that we started seeing a lot of each other and hooking up regularly. We basically ended up in a relationship without any talk of exclusivity.

Then all of a sudden she tells me she's not ready to commit to anyone and the next person she commits to she wants to see as a potential husband (shes 28 and I'm 24). So for the next week I kind of give her a freeze out and dont call or text her and only reply to her texts with short answers.

She then goes on to start sending me little "kissy" emoticons and trying to get my attention. I give her the attention and start hanging with her again (but cant seem to get another F close out of her). I also noticed she is on POF everyday and I start getting angry.

One night I lapse and text her this shit isn't working I'm not looking to get played and screwed around by you lets just stop this game and I'm going to start dating.

She immediately calls me in tears and explains shes fucked up from the last two guys she dated (One was a lunatic that hit her and tried to sneak a video cam into the bedroom and the other was from her description a very good PUA that got her hooked with mind games). So I said its all good we can still be friends just work on your problems.

Last night we went to her place and kissed a little and drank some wine and she got all emotional about how F*cked up her last three BF have been and "Your such a good man but I cant commit".

Today I sent a text and 4 hours later got a short response and nothing ever since.

Now I know there is a lot I did wrong here but if anyone can give me some pointers one where I went wrong and if there is a way that I can turn this around (She is the best lay I've ever had). That would be appreciated!


Thanks,
CroBrad

Classic crazy but yeah we all got something. I would say an this is not my expertise per say but go for honesty but lead. Also tell her that your not her last 3 BF's. Do not try to fix her and lose the Oneitesis on this girl. Put her on a pedestal is not going to work. I am not saying hit her or sneak in a camera but she seems to be drawn to edgy guys. You might need to add a bit more edge and maturity to the pot. Also do not get in to any deep convos on her last BF's. She will self consciously put the bad feelings on to you when talking about them. How to turn it around. Start dating other girls and get your confidences up and maybe hint that you are getting some high value girls sniffing your mix and that she might just lose out.

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