Flew to visit a girl in Cali that I have something going on with. Hung out 4-5 times the week I was in town after we met. Then kept in phone contact for last 4 months.

Came out here casually after she suggested it a couple times but i never made it super clear it was mainly for her since I could play it off with having a few good friends here.

So we hung out once already but she tried to cancel that first time then today she cancelled on me. So I gave her a bit of a hard time joking wise then explained my exact intentions for coming out here. That she had gotten me curious and I really put myself out there coming all the way and I had expected to hang out quite a bit and get to know here better in the short time here.

Her reaction was explaining to tired from work, etc.. Then saying we are all good for rest of days I'm here and then into making specific plans and really showing her interest. Almost like it got her chasing.

Anybody ever try this with any success? Being very direct about my intentions and saying what I expect and nothing less seemed to work well. Something I think other should be using.

But notice I didn't say I like u blah blah afc stuff but rather made it clear I was very serious about seeing where things could go.

Declaring intentions can be good if the girl is on the same page attraction-wise. A man who states what he wants can infer someone of status, confidence, not shying away from conveying his expectations to another. I've always preferred the direct approach over indirect (e.g. game), it simply cuts straight to the point and is far more efficient energy wise.