I have a girl who I've hung out with a couple times, and text here and there. Hooked up once. She likes emotional shit and really has offered to be my friend many times but never really acted upon it, but we are slowly progressing i guess.

I know girls love drama so when she asked me how my week was once and I told i had some drama going on but didn't tell her what. She assumed it was with other girls which was good. She was like I'm always there to listen ,etc,etc.

I realize you are always supposed to be upbeat and all that but what if I really do need an ear to listen to outside of my friends/family circle. Is this wrong ?

in my experience there are questions women ask that are expected to have deep answers, like why did you choose your career or situations where the girl gets really interested in something you are sharing about yourself and those are the points you should be deep. learning to recognice them is not that hard, tipically its body languaje, when you tell her something that intrigues her she will turn to face you and maybe touch your arm or something and ask something about what you just said.

i think being upbeat is not always necesary. when you are in a club yes but when you are having a conversation one on one, thats a good pleace to slow down and be real, let her know the real, attractive you. thats where you can be deep i think.

if you need an ear to listen its ok but be careful not to whine about your life to her. thats not attractive.

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