Here is the background to everything: I am part of a cultural community that has about 150-200 students on a large campus. There is not that many options to date because of lack of attractive girls for us. and for the attractive girls (which arent that many) lack of guys with game or w/e the reason is.
the girl: very upper class, very nice, flirty, doesnt hook up with anyone without being in a relationship. she was talking to some guy for a month last semester before deciding not to go out with him. i then met her and she would show a lot of interest, but a lot of rumors were going on between her and that guy so i decided not to interfere just in case they were true, and didnt even get to know her or anything. then summer came and then school started.
a month and few weeks went by and i got her number. she always showed me a lot of attention. i just never kissed her ass like the rest of the school did, which is why i assume she always showered me with all the attention. one day i called her to go to the gym with me. she said i should be her trainer and we would train all the time. the next time she wanted to train she texted me and asked "tomorrow?" i said "yea" the next day she was very nice and got me coffee and whatnot in the library. then an hour before we were supposed to go i backed off for some dumb reason. she said thats fine. then a half hour later i said "hey i changed my mind come if you want" she said she had some assignment to finish and she ran already.
then came the weekend and she was at home. i texted her, convo led up to her sending a pic of her pet to which i FOOLISHLY replied "damn its ugly, remind me of you" she was like your so nice and cut the convo off shortly after.
now this is when things get rough
two days later in the library my friend brings up the dog thing again because she told him when i was there with her studying. this time i crossed the line by saying, "you wouldnt want me to lie would you? atleast im straight forward" she was grinning at first but she got really quiet and serious. she moved to the other side of the table with a shelf in the middle so we couldnt see her.
before i left the library, i went up to her and was like hey i was just kidding. she said "ok" in a stern serious voice. i said "forreal thought i was just kidding" she said "ok and you should leave." so i left and in a half hour i called her. phone convo went like this:
me: hey i just want to say that i shouldnt have said that, i went out of line and that i am really sorry for that. i also want to say that i did not mean any of that and i was just joking.
her: i really dont care anymore i try to be nice to everyone but everyone likes giving me a hard time, i dont know anymore i really dont.
me: i really didnt mean anything i said i...(cuts me off)
her: i dont care if you were joking or not, that was really humiliating stuff to say in front of people, you really hurt my feelings, i just dont know anymore.
me: i have a feeling your going to treat me like "so and so" (this guy that said a bunch of things to her that hurt her cause it was about her and her ex).
her: i just dont know anymore blah blah it was really hurtful you shouldnt have said that blah blah blah
me: the only reason why i even said that was because i think you're the prettiest girl in the school and because i thought it was ironic.
her: ok first of all thats a lie (she thinks im saying the WHOLE school, i meant within the cultural community at our school cause i dont pay attention to other girls in the school...atleast not yet) and it doesnt matter you shouldnt have said that blah blah blah
me: i dont know what to tell you if you think im lying.
her: (this is where she makes me feel like a complete dumbass on the phone) i dont know anymore i try to be nice to everyone, but whatever i guess ill let this one slide, thanks for apologizing, bye. *hangs up
i tell my friend everything, he texts her while shes at practice for something, she texts me late at night. "hey i just wanna say i really do forgive you ive just been really stressed out lately and whatnot but i dont want you to think that i hate you or anything" me: thanks, i understand her: okay
i didnt see her since that incident or talk to her since that text until yesterday.
she came to my work, im a server at a restaurant. she tried to request me to serve her but she and her friends didnt want to wait for me to clock in (i was walking behind her while going in the building, we didnt know we were there. as she is leaving the restaurant she smiles and waves at me and i say "later".
now this is when things get REALLY bad to my knowledge.
after she leaves she texts me and the convo goes like this:
her: you look ugly as shit in your work uniform ....
me: you didnt have permission to check me out :p
her: i wasnt , i couldnt help but notice
me: i know you couldnt help but notice , you know who your talking to?
her: no
me: (okay this is where i mess things up really bad by taking advice from an idiot coworker) i might have to show you then someday
her: hahaha im confused
me: lol what are you confused about?
me: if you are free to go to the gym someday ill remind you that im your trainer...duh
her: (completely changes the subject) im watching sinister its sooo scary
me: (annoyed) its just a movie
her: its so scary omg im going to sleep in my friends room tonight
i didnt reply
ok so here is what happened i feel like. she took that message sexually. i was trying to just hang out with her. so now im wondering what is going on.
was she really confused or did she take it bad?
if she was confused, does that mean im safe or what? what do i do from now on if she was confused and didnt know what i meant because i was vague?
if she took it sexually.... there might be a chance she will friend zone me. what are my options now? freeze her out till she texts me or hang or w/e? clear it up with her so she knows my intentions? play it cool and ask her to lunch?
im just really digging myself a grave here i feel like... please help.
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