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Watsup guys? So i am in need of some good advice over this crossroads ive come upon so here goes
Basically i met this girl ,who i am acquainted with, in one of my classes and i proceeded to game her..i actually did it and she gained interest in me and i n-closed her. Then i gained enough rapport with her that in around two weeks i got to k-close her but i couldve done it sooner..now the thing is that i thought that i wouldnt grow affectionate of her but along the way i got to know her and she turned out to be a cool girl and found out we had alot in common. But thing is i never asked her out and i remember i told her after a while that i wasnt looking for a relationship or love at that moment but those words came out automatically and i realized later that i didnt mean it. However one of my friends was going to have a party in 3 days so i felt like i was going to f-close this girl. However i have noticed that she began losing interest after i told her that but she still let me kiss her and things. To make a long story short, the day of the party i found out my best friend drunk at the time kissed her 2-5 times and at the first she hesitated but at the second she complied. She told me 2 days after why she had tried to distance herself from me after i told her i didnt want a.relationship because 1. I had given her the impression that i was a player since i told her i can read a girls body language and i had brought up women during our time together and 2. Because of the not wanting a relationship thing..which all had made her not trust me. I also told her that i didnt mean what i said and then we cleared up the air on those issues. Then after she admitted to me that my best friend kissed her and that she kissed him back. We talked honestly together and we revealed all the truth about wat happened. She said she felt guilty because she likes me and my optimism and my tendency to always stay positive and that she feels bad about it.
I had time to cool down about it and realized that i did ignore her at the.party because i got drunk and let her disinterest get in my head. I know shes different from most girls ive dated and now im not sure if i should forgive because i didnt ask her out and i did talk about how i had developed knowledge on women behavior and i pushed it too far
So wat do you guys think should i forget she had done this and start fresh with her or leave her.and deal with this heartbreak?
Thanks guys..
Her excuses make no sense.
1. Your being a player. Do you really think being smooth would be a deterrent to any woman? If anything, it would make you more desirable in her eyes.
2. Your not wanting a relationship. I have never met a woman who, upon being told that I don't want a relationship, didn't pursue me
more. It's the same as telling a woman, "I think we're moving too fast." However, that was after we'd slept together, and you had only gotten to kiss her when you said this, so this bullet point may be moot.
It sounds to me like you had an opportunity to sleep with this girl and you didn't. You got too much inside your own head, blurted out you're not looking for love before anything even happened. That confused her and/or made her frustrated with waiting, so she went for the next candidate. Now she's just trying to justify it without hurting your feelings.
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