Hi everyone.. 1st post here..

I've always been insecure about my looks. i know that confidence and personality matters, but so do looks.. but i'm also wondering if my memories are biased/warped. It seems I can only remember the times when I'm given evidence that i'm ugly, and i forget about all the times when there's evidence that i'm decent looking...

A lot of times when i'm called good looking, it's from family and friends who are trying to make me feel better when i look clearly depressed... i think I can only recall one time when a complete stranger commented on my looks. I'd like to hear what you guys think about this moment.

So.. this happened a few years ago..

What happened was I was with my friends in SF at a hole in the wall joint, standing on the streets looking at the menu from outside. There were no customers so the girl taking orders/money walks up to us and tells us about what kind of sandwiches they have available and which ones we should try, and then says "when you're ready, i'll be here. waiting for you." and i swear she gave me this look when she said "waiting for you"..... but i had really low self esteem at the time, even more than i did now so i didn't think much of it.

Then my friends lined up, made their order, and went outside to wait for their food. I was the last one to order, and as I nervously said what I wanted and handed her the money without making any eye contact, she just said "you are ADORABLE i could just pinch you." my face instantly turns RED and i just mumbled "um thx ummm um" and quickly handed her the money, waited for my receipt, and ran away back to my friends......

um.. anyway.. obviously that was pathetic. What should i have said? that was a couple years ago and to this day i still am not sure how i could have salvaged that.

also.... was she attracted to me, or did she just find my insecure body langauge funny? she's a white girl... i'm a skinny asian guy, don't think i'm particularly attractive facially either...

Looks don't matter, yes they help, if your game is tight and your a good looking then you will have an easier time opening women, but after the first minute looks mean next to nothing unless you are hideous.

All women care about is value, the alpha male wins thew girl period!

The only things I know women take up issue with is weight, and hygiene. If your un healthy it will lower your value, but natural born looks mean very little!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HgPRfkvR5KA

Take a look at 90% of the best pick up artist in the world and most of them are average looking at best.

i think all the PUA are pretty good looking tbh.. if they're average then i'm below average

Looks do help but they mean nothing iv got ginger hair and a few extra pounds on me although im working on getting rid off this an back to my usual shape 2 week in malia messed my whole eating pattern up an i just carnt stop eating lol. fuck it though the fatter i get the more awesome i get.

I seriously wouldnt get depressed about looks every bodys perception of looks are completely different some random girl might just not be attracted too you looks wise just because you look like someone she doesnt like.

Pof the other day some girl messaged me saying im ugly bla bla an i shouldnt over estimate myself.
i forget the message i sent her back but boom she was right in the palm of my hand sending multiple messages an that too me.

Best advice is too read up on body language an attraction signals an you will be shocked at how many girls actually like you

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