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Wow, you have way too much time on your hands my friend. The fact of the matter is my comment wasn't trying hard at all. It took me two seconds to think it and another few to type it. My point in all of this is, if you feel you need to say a specific thing or think it out, it means you are trying to hard. To put that much concern into whether or not you're saying the right comment is in fact the issue here, it's not that of a man with an abundance mentality.
As for alpha, again, there is not need to try and be. To be so concerned is not a sign of an alpha. To worry whether or not what you are saying the right thing isn't alpha.
If I may suggest something to you, since you seem to be the type that likes to over analyze. I'd suggest not worrying so much about the outcome and just say whatever you like. In this case, what I typed is exactly what I would of said and I would not of had a worry if it was or was not the right thing to say.
You're making this rocket science when it is basic communication, she was obviously talking about change, so why not embrace her words and continue what she started.
I'm not sure how much experience you have with women, but in my world, it's always wise to play along for a little bit at least.
As for asking me if I am a control freak, I think you have taken my words completely out of context. Please re-read my initial post, I merely said if you are depending on her reactions and concerned if what you are saying is having a negative effect, then yes she is in control. Not sure where you got all the "control freak" shit from.
I mean no offense by this but it would seem you are not as experienced with women as you may put out to be. Pick up is simple if you let it be. Stop thinking so much and try applying it. Analyzing is great and all, but please do not over do it. You'll just end up walking in circles, while the other dude takes the girl.
Women are complicated creatures, but at the same time can be very easy to seduce if you see the signs and play along accordingly.
Hey mate,
yes, i took my time to write all of that down. I think it to be important, that is why i did it. This is also important, so i ll take my time for this reply as well. I know you are not flaming me, so dont worry about that.
I dont want to target you, i made my initial comment about the 2 replies that were there so far. With my extended post, i thought over why i didnt like the comments, also for other people reading this thread.
You are paraphrasing most of what i said. In my first reply i said: dont think it over, just say what you want. that is simple. You are right when you say that you dont have to think it over.
But, and here i am taking you on your own words, just the post before your last one, you say:
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If anything, it was just reconfirming a change, and re-affirming what she was saying, as well as creating a general curiosity of what has changed about him. If she has changed herself in any ways for the better, she will relate and she will definitely be curious as to how he's changed himself.
It should peek her interest and lay the ground work for a fun conversation.
For something that shouldnt be thought over, this seems like a lot to think about. I believe you when you say that you know that, hell i dont care whether you knew it or not. But for other people, this is confusing. "Dont think it over, but it should peek interest and reconfirm this and re-affirm that."
I say again (like i did twice already): you dont need all of this; the interest is already there.
About playing along: play along with what? She merely states that you changed a lot. The reason why she is saying this is because its been a long time.
In my opinion, there is nothing yet to play along with. And even then, i dont like playing games in pickup.
the control freak shit was to make a point. I targeted you, because you are the one that made the comment. Perhaps you know all this and that is fine. But others dont.
Pickup is indeed simple for those who got the hang of it already. In my latest post, i tried to give a bit more information that just: i feel like this is bla or i believe that this is bleeeh. I tried to comment more on why i feel this way. Yeah, this is over analyzed, but i believe that it might be useful.
Sure, dont over analyze while you are talking to a woman, dont analyze every single word she said, dont bend your mind figuring out what she might or might not mean. that is good advice indeed. But sometimes it is interesting to give the 'why' of what you are advising.
this thread was about helping the dude with 'online game' (which i wouldnt advice anyway). I think the replies given are 'trying too hard'. Whether or not you thought a long time about that reply, i still think they are too far fetched. THe initial message i wanted to give is (and this is completely loose from you or your post): you dont have to try hard to think of a good reply. just say what you want to do with her. Showing some interest is not a bad thing.
Women really arent such complex 'creatures'. it gets complex when you start playing games, using techniques and try to influence her mind. Now i can question your successes with women as well, but frankly, i dont really care and it is not giving any more value to the thread. In the end, you are just giving advice in the way you see fit.
Pickup is indeed simple: its about genuine interest and the balls to show it. Be interested in her and the complexity fades.
Cheers and good luck!
CHAT
). So you dont have to reply anything to 'open up the facebook conversation'. i would reply something so you guys can do something together. 