Had a great first date with this super hot stripper type with fake tits as big as my head type chick, and then she goes cold. Would like some feedback and advice if you wouldn't mind guys.

Okay, a little background:

We first see each other about a month ago. We're both sat outside in the sun at a coffee place. We're at adjacent tables. We have a little bit of chit chat and a laugh, but I leave it at that and don't take it any further. Eventually her and her friend leave to carry on shopping. Never think anything of it.

Anyway, a month later I find a note on my windscreen, and it's her, and she's seen me and remembered me and she wants me to call her. So I do, and we chat and text a bit and arrange a date the following week.

We go meet for coffee, it's a great sunny day, we sit outside and talk and laugh in the sun for a few hours. During the date, and during the week building up to it she's showing loads of interest and really keen and we make loose plans for a second date.

Then she goes a little cold, and then dries up completely. I leave it a while, then send her a text saying:

'Didn't think you were the type to disappear without saying goodbye. No big deal, take your time, I have to get back to work so won't always be around'... blah blah blah and left it at that.

She did reply to that, apologising, saying she'd only been out of a relationship a month ago and not really over it all, busy with stuff (all of which I know is true). She signed off saying I'm a cool guy and had a good time and maybe see me around, smiley face.

That was a few days ago and I haven't replied. My instinctive reaction is not to invest any more time and effort into her, let her dwell on it all, get over her ex and all that. Part of me is tempted to send her a lighthearted jokey type text saying that I should get back to running my business and stop getting distracted by women leaving me notes on my windscreen as a jokey way of leaving the door open for her in the future.

Would appreciate you guys sharing your thoughts on it all.

Sounds like she lost attraction and the ex thing may be an excuse. Did you escalate on the date at all? At least kiss?

It sounds like its dead in the water regardless so move on and try to escalate next time. Good luck.

Thanks for the feedback dude. Kissed hello and goodbye, nothing more than that apart from some playful touching when the opportunity came up but nothing overtly sexual.

She probably found another guy. It may or may not have had anything to do with what you did or didn't do.