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I'm in college.
My guy friends are constantly giving me shit. It started off not very much, but now there's a lot of it. They'll constantly tease me for sucking with girls, and when I introduce myself with the group to new people for the first time, sometimes one of my friends will turn to them and be like "We're sorry about [my name], he's just a crazy guy." I also like to sing and shit in public, and they give me crap about that, but it's just me trying to have fun. Finally yesterday I was talking to a girl with this dude and we were asking her all these questions as part of a game, and I asked how many guys she'd slept with, and I thought it was totally part of my frame, but this dude was like, "Whoah, [myname] just totally went there, didn't he? How do you feel about that?"
Normally I just ignore this shit, but it's getting out of control, and I realize now that this is blatant disrespect. I am trying to lead these guys and they're just trying to take me down. So lately whenever anybody says something like this I'll just call him an asshole or something, or if I know that this guy is about to destroy my introduction to somebody new, I will introduce him to the new guy first with something like "This is (SPAM), he's a cool guy."
I don't understand why these dudes are trying to tear down my leadership. They don't respect me or what I do. Should I start giving them shit back, and if so, then how exactly?
The dance of seduction only takes two.
It sounds like you and your friends are a competitive bunch with a general demeanor of carving each other up and poking fun. This can be fun when it's just the boys around, but when it comes to women, it's a recipe for disaster, especially if you are not the alpha.
Gaming with wing men only works if you do it as a cohesive unit.
My advice to you is to separate the two. Based on your post, you don't seem to be shy "singing in public" So you should not have a problem approaching women alone.
The fastest way to get respect from a group of pussy hungry guys is to get the pussy for yourself and on your own and let them see it happen.
If you must do game around them, try to isolate yourself from them as much as possible,( when you see your target) if you are the first one approaching the target but still within the confines of your group, talk to her directly, don't even introduce your friends and completely isolate the target. If they come and try to talk as well, make it seem like you two are already locked into conversation. Or even put up your finger up to your friend to gesture and say "one second/minute" this can give the girl the impression what you are going to say is important and like he was interrupting so she may help validate it with her body language by looking back directly at you.
If you are a hungry wolf among other hungry wolves, why would you want to invite them to a feast for one?
Hunt alone, if you want to hunt with the group you must still have the "hunt alone" mentality.
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