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@daffy
What kind of relationship is this so far? You say you asked her out but what have you done so far with her in terms of attraction, rapport and sex?
I'm sure you have learnt by now that for us guys to figure out a girl there are many possibilities, but if you can get her attraction to 80-90% and give her reason to want to be with you then she won't say no. I personally find that girls say one thing, but mean another. For example. Recently a girl told me that she thought I was a nice guy etc... but she wouldn't have sex with me. I took this as a challenge, and played the thrill card myself, and got with her creating a naughty feeling for her which turned her on and we ended up getting it on.
But you know, if she says no to you asking her out. Next...... go flirt with other girls, chat with other girls, let other girls post on your facebook wall. Not too much, just a little, and back off this girl a bit. This girl rejected you, her bad decision. Be busy and get out there! Maybe give it a few days and talk to her then once there is a bit of sexual anxiety build up. View yourself as the prize and don't be phased by girls bad decisions. Once a bit of jealously builds up she will be more attracted to you. Remember though, it only takes one girl to make another girl jealous. Be in that competitive market where she will be that attracted to you. I'm a bit tired at the moment so rambling, but at the moment, although she likes you, you are there. And she knows that. But if there is possibility of her losing this. This is what you want ideally.
our relationship was purely a working one at first. i had a girlfriend and she had a bfriend at the time.
i totally wasnt attracted to her at first but something happened. we had GREAT chemistry. we got on so well at work. we started flirting harmlessly by email until at one point when i jokingly told her i didnt need anyone in my life and she wasnt my type, she got REALLY upset.
thats when i knew this wasnt just harmless. we kept up an email relationship after she got moved to another department (we suspect cos it was clear our relationship was more than work like).
there was a period of afc craziness where i told her my feelings and stuff and the whole office kind of knew what was going on but that died down and i was still getting 'signals' from her if you know what i mean - STRONG ioi's. everytime i backed off and tried to move on she would make some kind of approach, or she would always magically be around....volunteering to work alone with me when someone called in sick, bumping in the hallway etc....this never happens when someone is trying to avoid you.
thats when i thought 'fuck it', bite the bullet, lets get this over and done with one way or another. so i asked her out. she said 'if you'd been cool and asked me out before the craziness i would have probably said yes', i said 'i'm cool now', she said 'this hurts me more than it does you, can i think about it etc etc', to which i said no.
our relationship is great. when together we are GREAT. i read her man. i read her like a book. i know how she feels otherwise i wouldnt have asked her. maybe her friends are giving her shit advice. her best friend at work is some fat chick who bitches about everyone. i dont like her friends at work.
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