Ok, this has probably been asked about a million times and yes I have tried using the search feature to no avail, so as a generalisation is it possible to get out of the friend zone?

and to make it a little more specific to situation I am in, in a couple of months I will be regularly seeing a friend who I have not seen in a year, last time we saw each other very regularly i was going out with someone else but broke up with which she knows about.

We keep in contact on facebook maybe talking for about 30 mins every month or so and I have always been a little flirty with her when we have talked.

my current thoughts are if it is possible form this situation I would need to keep some contact with her, but at same time keep some distance from her so that when we do get back to seeing each other every other day, she quickly realises how much I have changed for the better.

It should also be noted it wasn't until after I broke up with the previous gf that I discovered about PUA so since then I have gone from being an AFC to...well a slightly less AFC and so I am thinking when we do meet up I should just game like she is any other person

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When you meet her be the fun, improved you that you now are. I'm sure you are more confident sexually. You probably already have a lot of comfort and rapport with her I'm guessing, so when you see her spend a day with her and tell her to have a drink with you, where you will then become sexual.

Remember to kino as soon as you see her; you are now a touchy feely guy, remember?

In the end, you cannot know if you are or aren't in the friendzone until you give it a try. But sheer confidence in your intentions should make you the leader and make her submissive. Don't take any of her shit, be cool and unapologizing in your intentions. Tell her that you've always found her sexy. Gauge her reaction. Even if it's not a reaction you expect, you hold your ground and remain unapologizing. It's just what you think of her, and you would have no problem fucking her. If you can make that clear, you will improve your chances greatly.

^^ Very well said ^^


MagicM, The 'friendzone' isn't a place. It's not real nor is it tangible.

You can get out of it every single time. You can be coy, sneaky, or ball-out caveman.

Simply telling her "Damn, you're smoking hot, I have been dying to fuck you for years" will get you out of the FZ quickly - it may not lead to where you want to go - but you get the point. FZ is based on intentions and hesitation. Need proof? Chicks you're already friends with - and nothing more - you don't THINK about being in the FZ; it's a natural thing. If you're thinking about it - you're into her and need to make the move one way or the other.

Most men can't see past risking the entire thing. They capitulate and accept the 'friend' so as not to lose the women entirely and settle for the FZ. Unless she's THAT cool, and I can turn off any sexual chemistry (fat chance), I can't settle for mediocrity - it's almost oneitis then. I can't 'just be friends' with a chick I'm sexually interested in. If she is my 'buddy' and is getting plowed by another dude, and I want to fuck her - I have an issue with that. That's my mindset.

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thanks for inputs guys, you kinda reinforced in what I was thinking needed to be done os given me a huge confidence.

I also know the freind zone isnt a real place but its best way to describe that sort of situation.

When she says hi Im intending on just saying with a huge smirk on my face. "Damm you look good in that outfit, take it off!!!" and before she can respond just chuckle and give her a hug asking her how she been that way i will be putting the idea in her head that I want more than friends with her while at same time being fun friendly, touchy feely and not too straigiht up in her face about it so that she feels uncomfortable.

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