met a girl a few days ago, she was in the park with her friend. her friend was sunbathing while she was sitting in the shade. very sexy - HB 8.5 with no makeup- long natural blonde hair, greenish blue eyes, freckles, I would say she's 19 or 20 years old. anyways. asked her why she was sitting in the shade - laughed and said she can't tan, she only burns. me too, I said. well we chatted for a while. i haven't been looking for just lays - to be honest ive been getting lonely, as cheesy at is sounds, i want to get to that point in my life where i have a girl living in my house to come home to after a long day of work, someone who will smile at me, ask me how my day was, and all that cheesy stuff. so i didnt come across as very sexual. i am at a different stage of my life and not looking for the same thing i was looking for when i was in my 20s. asked for her number, she gave it to me. told her i'd like to do something together. she said straight up, 'you can take me out for dinner, but i'm not going to sleep with you.' ouch haha. she has a bit of a bitchy and snobby look to her, and for some reason girls like that are my weakness. theyre my favorites. well i told her im not going to take you out for dinner, we can go out for ice cream though. she told me that she likes older guys. she asked for my number too and put it in her phone. we chatted for a bit before i left, but like i said i wasnt too sexual, and worried all the chit chatting would lessen attraction and possibly make her not want me. well she texted me later saying, hey how are you. we chatted a bit. eventually she asked 'want to know a secret about me?' I said sure and she didn't reply until today. I wondered a little what happened but I assumed I had screwed up and done too much chitchat which killed the attraction. but she did reply today with 'ive never had an orgasm before' and a blushing face.

so now I'm trying to figure this girl out. why hasnt she had an orgasm? is she tense and had trouble relaxing? has she only been with guys who didnt know what they were doing? is she sexually frigid? another point to consider is that a friend of mine works at the same place as her father, and he's a really nervous guy with submissive body language - blinks a lot, won't make eye contact with people, etc. wondering how this could affect her personality.

like i said im looking for long term things now rather than just using girls for sex. would love to give her her first orgasm the first time i fuck her and make her mine. i consider this girl worth a bit of extra effort than usual as she's a natural blonde which is my weakness (especially if the carpet matches the drapes) and they are statistically rare.

Sounds like you'd have to get to know her better to find the answer to that question. Without knowing more about her sexual history, it's hard to say. Has she tried masturbation? Does she have a medical or mental health issue? How many guys has she been with? More importantly, what's her longest relationship?

A friend of mine is 24, she's been with 46 guys, and only came a small handful of times. Most of those guys were ONS or FBs. When she gets an emotional attachment to someone, she can orgasm. I know a couple women like this.

I also know a couple that can orgasm quite easily. They tend to be very comfortable with their sexuality. Younger women especially can view it as "wrong" and therefore enjoying it (an orgasm) is also wrong. That's when it's psychological.

Just my two cents.

There's a correlation between low sex drive and difficulty reaching orgasm. If it's important to you, ask how her sex drive is, otherwise you might be very stressed with her. Also ask if she's able to orgasm through masturbation. If not, she might need to learn how with herself before she can with you. Also also, ask if she's on any drugs/meds, many can affect sex drive/functioning. Also also also, ask if she has any history of sexual trauma.

Most females can't orgasm through vaginal sex alone, more can orgasm by oral sex or partner hand stimulation, and even more can orgasm by their own hand or vibrator during vaginal sex.

Perfect. You can be the first guy to give her an orgasm. The other day I gave a girl an orgasm, I was the first guy to ever do this to her. She's 24 and I'm guessing been with quite a few guys. She was so astonished by my "ability" she couldn't believe it. You know how good it felt to know that you're the first guy ever to give her an orgasm? For her entire life I will now be the first guy to have given her one, and she will most likely always remember me for that. If she's with another guy who can't do it, she will think back to me.

Fuck it's great. Read the Sex God Method, I'm reading it now. It helped me out a little.

As for not being sexual then and there, don't worry. Stop overthinking why she never had an orgasm. Just know that the fact she brought it up means she's thought about sleeping with you Be dominant, don't take her shit, be nice and funny, and just have a good time when you take her out. Know what you want and go for it and be unapologetic about it. Then make your moves.