ok what im trying to say is that you don't have confidence in your self and that will translate to bad performance since its going to be on your mind constantly and a women will sense that. what I meant by shyness is that you dont approach which is part of building confidence (the more you do it the more confident you get ) same in a sexual encounter ....first couple of times you will be bad and you will probably cum in your pants as soon as she touches your zipper lol but thats life
keep in mind the chick that you sleep with in most cases will be a one night stand your first couple of times and you probably wont see them again. so there is nothing to be worried about.
also if you want to last longer do this .....before you get to her place if its going to be a bit set up or she comes to yours if you have time masturbate to get rid of extra fluids that will make you cum sooner ( also I do good before you go out it gets the edge off). then when its time let her suck you off until you cum ....then wipe it off put on a condom and go. usually after that I can go for an hour and if Im about to blow again I flex my quads so all the blood rushes to them and it calms me down a bit and I can go for more that's something a cougar told me when she was on me
