So there's this girl at work who i like and who i know likes me. absolutely no doubt about that but i just can't seem to pin her down (metaphorically speaking).

i really want to get her out of the office and alone with me so we can bond properly but i'm befuddled as to how to go about this.

i don't want to just come out and ask her out because that means giving up my power and leaving me open to rejection.

even by saying i'm doing such and such you should come leaves me open to the possibility of rejection. any ideas?

i tried something recently which undoubtedly others have done before worked a treat here it is....

during a high energy exciting conversation... simply cut the convo at its peak... this means at that moment she is invest enjoying the convo smiling/laughing... so you cut it... be like "look i must do x y z before d boss whatevers" the excuse is atually immaterial.

seamlessly following this sentence i say but hey lets pickup where we left off. how about name time and place... (this is were u can choose your remeet frame.

i base this on a noticed pattern i have foudnthat i can get humans in general male and female to aree to most activity requests if they have a smile on their face at the time. e.g. chatting to a hb9 smiling laughoing hey girl lets walk and talk so we can restock the boooze... no one likes this drunkards job... and women would not normally so u just make it sound like a fun activity. and you're on for 1-1 time...

hope that helps. the key is don't be scared... i screwed up with the hottest girl at work for being sheepish and not executing as i should have.

you are going to have to make yourself vulnerable at some point,

if you have a decent rapport with her, she is already aware if she likes you or not enough to go out with you, there is nothing magical you could say or do to make this not so, you would be more likely to blow this, the longer it drags out

be honest and straightforward that you want to take her out and find her attractive, she is most likely to be intrested in the reason, when she has an appealing justification, and if sex with you is not appealing to her, then you are wasting your time on her anyways, the only way you can give your power away, is to allow someone to hold power over you, and for that to happen you have to believe that they are more powerful then yourself

if you're trying to play power games, the person who cares the least, has the most power, right now she already has power over you because you care about the outcome, if you are indifferent to a result, she has no power, if you need something from her, she will always have leverage

there are billions of girls in the world, it's not the end of the world if this doesn't work out for you, and not going for it while pussy footing around it is a waste of time, if she doesn't like you now, she probably won't like you in 2 months or when ever you finally work up the courage to do exactly what you could do right now, you won't be able to move this forward or move on without knowing where you stand

just believe in yourself and trust everything will be ok no matter the result, nothing bad is going to happen, she is either interested and you got a girl to take out, or she is not, and things stay the same as they are now (girls are used to getting asked out, it's not a big deal), and you can go meet new girls and try it on with them, waste of time avoided, closer to reaching your goal faster (finding a girl), win/win

GOOD LUCK