Since this is my first post let me quickly introduce myself. I found out about PUA ~2 years ago and since then I read a book or an article every here and there. But I don't use it very actively, just when I have time, so maybe a few times a month. Also I was never really using any techniques or patterns, I'm just trying to use some PUA concepts with help of my common sense. I was a bit of a natural before and I know some naturals, so maybe that makes it easier for me. Also I'm quite good looking and my real lifestyle demonstrates quite high value. Taking all this into account I normally don't have a problem to attract women and among some of my friends I'm known for always getting the best looking girl.

Now I'd like to introduce you to one girl who made me think a lot. It's not a one-itis, she's actually quite far from what I really want in a girl. The thing is just that I really can't figure her out. We've met about 2 years ago (so just a bit after I found out about PUA). That night she still had a boyfriend but she spent the whole night with me, mostly just passionately dancing and touching, we just quickly kissed a few times. We kept in touch because she was really hot and I realized that she really likes me. Next time we saw each other after a few months (we live far away), spent a great night and day together (no sex though, she didn't even want to kiss too much, saying that kissing only leads to one thing and that one thing is not gonna happen). After that almost whenever we see each other it gets worse. If she's drunk we make out passionately for a while, but then she always becomes angry, saying that it is not correct that we kiss, that we should just be friends etc. When she's sober she's very aloof, doesn't even want to talk about anything like that and doesn't want to admit that there's anything between us. But then again when she's drunk she will send me provocative text messages, inviting me to her place, she will always try to make me jealous and sometimes she'll even tell me about how she's jealous about some beautiful girls that I've been with (she knows for a few of them). She tells me that she doesn't want to kiss me because she knows she's not the most important girl for me and she's afraid I only wanna be with her because of her looks etc. I already wanted to end all this so I didn't contact her for a few months, after that she contacted me because of some "urgent" thing, she was very angry with me because I was ignoring her, but everything was just fine after a while. Maybe I should mention that she's a very sanguine person, her mood can change instantly from very good to very bad, she's often depressed etc...

The last time when I saw her we were again making out for a while, until she again realized that it's just wrong etc. after that she still invited me to her place, but when we arrived there she called her ex (at least I think so) and was talking to him for a while, using quite sweet words. After a few minutes I said that I'm not gonna listen to that so I decided to just go, but she started begging me to stay... Ok so I gave her another chance, after that we were laying in her bed and she was asking me things like if I use condoms, why do I use them, where do I have them, if I feel like having sex right now etc. I responded negatively to the last question, because I knew it was some kind of test because there were her parents in the next room and I was absolutely sure we weren't going to do it (also she didn't want to kiss at that time anymore).

Recently I was talking to her best friend (who is also my good friend; very smart girl) and she said that she's been observing us for a while and she realized that we both can't figure each other out and therefore instead of having normal physical or/and emotional attraction we are just genuinely puzzled. Also I've been with quite few girls and she's had full fidelity to few guys she ever dated, which could also be a problem.

So in short, there is a lot of attraction and a strong rapport between the two of us (actually she told me a few times that I'm the second most important man in her life). She's also single now (probably still a bit in love with her ex, though), so I don't see what's the thing with her. I'd like you to share your thoughts about this with me, to help me understand what's going on here as nothing similar ever happened to me and it really bothers me that I can't figure it out...

Thanks a lot for reading all this!