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How should i act? should i be always smiling? mess around?
Good question. School is a very good place to socailze and meet girls. I used to be in your shoes and I personally have done several field tests in order to plan out my ways to PU girls in school. But if you want social proof, you also need to know about the difference between that and pre-selection. They are both interrelated but still has differences. Social proof is when you are good with men and women in your school, and pre-selection is when you are chosen by women and they think you are a cool person. You DO NOT have to be an attractive man to get preselected. That is a misconception. I am not sure where you are, in HS or Uni, but girls pretty much at this age, are friendly enough to talk to anyone who they find cool, social and funny. With that in mind, if you want social proof in school, you need a social circle.
What is a social circle? Social circle is basically you and your other friends hanging out. Its not a closed circle, but an open one, when everyone else is welcome to join. You have to make your OWN social circle in order to get social proof very easily, and get preselected. If you are in HS, and if u go to a small HS, making your own social circle is a bit harder, than going to a large college or school. But if that is the case, try to get into a social circle. When people start to think you are cool, you are funny, (and you dont have to be funny,) as long as you are cool, do not talk behind anyone, and always help people out, are not a creep, or a stalker, you are cool with girls, people will like you for who you are. Remember its based on your personality. If you come across some young jocks, and slutty college girls who want to hang out with attractive men and women like those from Mean Girls, then avoid those groups. Go with those mature ones.
So in order to get social proof, you have to 1) have some friends, good friends that you can introduce to others, 2) go to places with them, do things for fun (not only video games, and science fair projects, but along with those, paying sports, going to dinner) 3) make you you are a very friendly person yourself, and 4) you are a good conversationalist 5) you can make people feel and make friends easily. Now, look back at the list and emphasize on #3-5. Basically, if you have these 3 points covered, you would be making friends all over the places, and people will start to like you, and that is called social proof.
Remember women are social creatures, so if she sees that you have friends all over the places she will look up to you and feel safe compared to some guy who has very few friends. If a woman sees that you are know a cashier at your local coffee shop, she will feel mentally elevated, and feel that you are a type of person she can socialize with.
Bottom line is: make more friends, have fun with both guys and girls.
Now for the important part, how you should act: you should NEVER act goofy, that would make you look like a clown and put your value down. Yes, you will get social proof, but you will NEVER be a dating material. You should act mature, serious but funny at the same time. You should NOT smile excessively. Only smile when its a joke or when you are having fun. If a girl sees that you are clown, she wouldnt want to date you. Messnig around, No. You don't want to mess around. You might want to flirt around with girls, have fun. If you want to play pranks, thats fine, but dont be a goof or be silly, act around your age. If you are 16, lets say and act like 8, that a huge turn off for girls.
Read this post over again, and if you have any qs, then PM me.