Ok so me and this girl work together, never really showed her any attention then her and her roomate who also work with me invited me out for a drink.
That was it, then another time we and another girl excluding her roomate decided to go out for a drink and well she forgot her id. So i took her home, and she said we could go to the liquor stor but couldnt hang out at her place because her roomate is a lite sleeper, so i offered my place. well her other roomate a male came a long and so it was four of us 3 males and 1 girl. Anyway we made out and she and he stayed the night her in my bed fondling each other. We would have made the deal but it was that time......
Next day she forgot her charger at my place so i said i would take it ove that night and stayed at her place same thing.
I have been trying to get her to come through again.
I text her earlier today, my roomate left day come kick it with me. No response as she was working and then i broke and called at like 1:30 and she text back "whats good?" told her i was setting up some beer pong. she should come thru, she said she was kicking it with her sister, I told her bring her too. She said her said "fuck that you dont know me like that" I said, haha lmfao ok my bad first time i kick it with your sis we can go to the petting zoo or something. No response. I wanna hang out with her i dont care who is there.

What do i do?

1) not care (remove yourself from outcome), 2) don't respond, allow her to

I was afraid you would say that lol

I don't think she will respond. How long should i wait before I re-engage? What should I re-engage with?

the answer to this question is always, ''what you want''

how does that make you feel what she did?, how do you interpret her action, will dictate what you do, do you care?, do you not care? what congruently expresses how you feel? how do you frame this?

all of this comes into alignment with an identy you have probably not discovered for yourself, it can be said that we are what we do, so what is it that you do?, who are you?, how do ''you'' handle this?

what ''I'' would do, may not suite what ''you'' would do, you need more experience with women, there is no magical coarse of action, there is certainty behind your way that fits your identity based on the girls you want to attract, and there is uncertainty

a lack of confidence is a turn off for women, not knowing what to do, not being able to lead or make the descisions, this is what you don't want to do

so when ever faced with this situation in the future, just ask yourself the question, what do I want to do? (don't get this confused with, what does she want me to do?)

now, with that in mind, I would have just texted her lyrics to that ludacris song

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5yt849wJyVk[/youtube]

''GET BACK, MOTHA FUCKA YOU DONNO ME LIKE DAT!! GET BACK MOTHA FUCKA YOU DONNO ME LIKE THAT''

then there would have been radio silence for a couple days and I'd probably stop calling her all together unless she called me, then I'd move on cause I don't personally like being treated in the way she treated you (unless she started texting me back and it turned out to be a joke), maybe if I forgot about it and was bored and had nothing better to do, I'd hit her up at random at some point in time (could be weeks, could be months, depending on how busy my life is)

but definately If I was single, I'd just go out and meet other women and not give a shit about some girl I barley even did anything with, who is already trying to tool me for no reason other then a friendly invite out to do something fun

It's been 30 mins already

Very clean with the lyrics

I know what I want and what I want is to hang out with her, just don't know how to make it happen.

Give it a few days, and then re-engage her w something new.

Women read subcommunicated messages - in other words it doesnt really matter WHAT you say, but what your behavior says to her. If you start chasing now, and texting her when you've made all the effort thus far it'll infer neediness and she'll c it as such. She's already minimally invested so for now let things sit on the back burner for a few days, let her at least wonder why you aren't texting her.

why do you need her, what is special about her? is there a reason you like her beyond she is the closest thing to a girl touching your penis you have going on?

aghhh bummer, I wanted it to happen tonight. I know what your saying and its all logical, just wanted to see if anyone had any insight to perhaps change it around. Thanks for your advice!

So i thought i'd give it one more shot. In all honesty I dont care about the outcome except in this moment lol

So I said haha text her ludacris song. and said pandora rocks! Cause we had a lil argument about pandora vs some other music deal.

Anyway I got this response: it came like an attachment: "Hey can you do me a fav I;ve been trying to get at (name) for a min & now we are getting in the pool to get wet then have some fun so respect the guy code & stop texting my girl ur messing up the vibe man.

I just want to respond with "weak"
PS not afraid of conflict at all lol

what do you think?

could have been her sis, her or a friend or a guy??? it was from her phone so....

or maybe i should just be like hey some dude just called me out from your phone whats going on? He got beef or what?

you're beeing needy dude, did you even read the context of how I would have used that luda song?

first of all, she is being so fucking rude, with "fuck that you dont know me like that", texting her the luda lyrics for that rude shit is a re-frame, not ''haha sorry my bad, please like me'' that is setting a giant I AM LOWER VALUE THEN YOU, frame, and the luda lyrics would have been followed by not texting her at all again (ever), you don't chase down rude irritating women who dis-respect you and think they own you, you replace them and make yourself not available for them when they want you, so they learn their lesson, men are not toys, and if a girl you are seeing fucks it up and treat you like a toy, then you don't play with her

she is treating you like some piece of trash or something when you have done absolutely nothing to deserve that, but you seem chill as fuck with that, you are obviously desperate and it is blinding you to her behavior, you got a whiff of the easy pussy and now you need it, take a step back man

just back off, and give yourself time for that womanly drug called possible vagina to leave your system, when you are not thinking about this girl, you're good to go, but right now you're headed towards oneitis town

go find some different girls to have sex with, this one is gay

when she is bored or desperate she will hit you up again, if she realizes you don't need her, at that point, blow her off, you don't need to be treated like this, and even when she comes back around as soon as she realizes she can have you when ever she wants, she will treat you poorly again