I really would like to talk to some of the 10,000 girls that would be there. But I just don't know how. I only have about 6 days to learn how to gain some confidence, go ahead and start a conversation. I don't need any "lines" or "routines" - I just need the confidence to talk to girls. There are plenty of stuff to talk about in such a situation.

I've been even considering on getting some "rubber" there, just in case. And let's just say it's something I've never bought:P

My problem is that I can not simply "get open", "be easy", "be fun". I'll face it and say: I'm a negative, sarcastic person, I'm very anti-social, I'm a loner. I hate talking to people. I hate "going with the flow" or not taking myself seriously. But I'm not a-sexual either. I think the most girls I've been able to open a short conversation with was a two set - I just can't talk to more than 2 girls, and really can't talk to a whole group, that includes guys.

FYI I'm 18.

So how do I start, quickly?

Thanks.

You go up to a girl and say "hi"

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

trust in what you want, and do it, you will have confidence once you trust yourself and are certain of your own descisions
you are what you think you are, you simply are... this ^ is your ego, not reality, if you think you are this, or you think you are that, you will be this or you will be that, lets say for example, I think I am the king of france, it does not make it so, lets say for example I meet some guy at a club with a hot girlfriend and I think he is a loser and he doesn't deserve the girl he is with and I am better then him, it does not make it so, lets say for example I meet a guy and he is hitting on some girl in a group I am talking to and I think he is better then me in some way shape or form, it does not make it so, this is just your ego talking to you and will be based off your level of self esteem and how you precieve yourself, you can tame it and be what you want to be

first of all
do it
walk up and talk
6 days has nothing to do with you being certain of what you are doing, there is no timeline, you are either sure of yourself, or you are not

this could take years, this could take days, it could possibly never happen, you could be confident right now and not realize it but be afraid, but here is an idea of a linear order to lead things in if you don't ''know''

talk - let her know you find her attractive - get her number - kiss - makeout - get her alone - feel her up - sex
why post this thread? reading something won't make you confident about yourself in an unknown situation with almost unlimited variables, certainty or knowing = confidence, courage and confidence are not the same thing, confidence is certainty, it can be situational (knowing what you are doing in a particular environment or situation) or it can be self-confidence (being certain of your own descisions and believing in yourself), courage is in this situation will help you face the ''unknown'' it does not mean it will make it ''known'' and when it is ''known'' to you, and you are sure of it, you will be confident

the only way to build your courage is to face your fears, and the only way to build your confidence is to make the unknown, known

you can have the courage to go talk to a girl, it doesn't mean you will have the confidence to get her, go get some experience and push your comfort zone

GOOD LUCK

pumpington, you are boss

Its really simple.

1 Be in the vibe of the concert. Enjoy it. This is really important. You dont need confidence to enjoy something. You went to metalica concert because you like the music. So one more time ENJOY THE MUSIC.

This will create a fun vibe. You will be into the zone. At some point look around you. See a women and just say:

Hi, This concert is awesome isnt it.

2 Continue from there.

If you really enjoy the show and do it like I told you, you shouldnt even think about approaching. Your just enjoying the concert. This also means that you dont feel any AA. And once you start talking with a women, the conversation just flows naturally. Just be in the frame of someone who want to have a good conversation.

Just screw your confidence, You wont get any if you dont approach. If neccesary get rejected 10 times before you get a conversation with someone. And once you get try to go further.

Most Mpua's got rejected thousands of times before they got as good as they are now, and believe it or not, being rejected gives you confidence.

Why? Because after some time you start believing that no mather how you got rejected, you will have seen worse before. And then you think, screw it if I get rejected, Ill just approach another one.


One last request a little bit of topic:
Opening is just one sentence (or even a simpley: Hey). After opening you need to keep the conversation going and keep looking confident.

So dont ask questions like: what kinda music do ya listen. Especially not at a concert of a metal band. Your plan is to sound confident even if you are not.

Be more like: I bet you have been to other Metal Concerts.
Hb Yeah , Ive been to ....
Continue with information she gave you. Make statements.

For instance if she says she has been to linking park, say, awesome band. You really should be at the wall of death by one of theyr concerts.

And then continue with another statement or open ended question, try to ask the question in such a way that she has to give an answer filled with emotion, like why she enjoys bands like that, what feelings they give etc.

Like juggler said, Talking in Statements is far better.

You sound more confident, it makes shit easyer and also more fun cause you connect better.

In other words, have a fun conversation like you have with your mates, such conversations give you more sales, they give you more chicks and also more fun.


I can only help with opening and keeping the conversation going SPAM. How to build further than this is something I need help with myself so you will have to do with this. Hope it helped.

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Know your enemy and know yourself and you can fight a hundred battles without disaster -Sun Tzu

Thanks for your comments. I guess that I will have a great time, because after all - this is nonetheless a Metallica concert

"Hitting" on girls on the street or the mall for example is way more difficult, but with the adrenaline in a concert it should be more simple.. My problem is that once I get rejected I always think "what if the girl whom just rejected me will see me talking to another girl?" LOL I know it's very irrational and a weird fear, but it's there:P.

This is all good advice and such, but make sure your #1 goal is to actually enjoy the concert. Metallica is fucking amazing live and it's not something you should miss a single second of. I envy you.