So I've been seeing this one girl and we've kissed a couple times. I've recently gone away on a trip and before I left she told me to just enjoy myself there and not text her.

As a sidenote the not texting part didn't have a cold feel or I'm not interested in you anymore.

Should I take this advice or would it look beta male to send her a quick text to see how's she doing?

Thanks!

alpha male be ignoring that damn message and just enjoy the trip till she gets back to you, then you start texting her

Ah ok so I'm better off just waiting till I get back? Otherwise it'll come off as beta male/desperate?

well I'm not an expert here but if that text means she's not interested in you anymore.. I mean there's nothing much you can do right? so why not just leave it at that and see if she gets back to you? the last thing you wanna do is sending her another message ad let her think that "omg I thought we were having such a good time and why you suddenly send such a cold message.. I'm so needy".. control the situation maintain your frame.. good luck pal

who cares what it looks like,

what do leaders do? they lead

what do you want to do in this situation, is she your leader?, do you have to do or not do what she wants to prove you make your own choices? or do you just make your own choices and it is irrelivant?

you don't have to text her, and you don't have to not text her, but figure out if you will be texting her/not texting her because you think it is what she wants, or if you are texting her because it is what you want

what you have to do, is learn to make your own independant choices for yourself, make your descisions from the core of who you are, rather then in reaction to other people

be aware of how she feels and try to understand what she thinks so you can lead her better, but don't allow it to effect you and how you feel, you don't need her to like you, and you don't need her to sleep with you, both of those things are just a possible bonus for knowing her

what do you want to do?