Hi Guys, Its my first post still going through a lot of the literature.
Theres a girl I've met up with who I went out with in high school, all seems to be going well. The thing is sometimes when I text her to arrange meeting up, she can take a few DAYS to reply. She's quite head strong, I think the approach of "not caring about it" seems to be the best approach.

But how long should I wait to reply ? I don't wanna wait 3 days and reply in 3 minutes like a complete loser. Any tips appreciated.

I am assuming high school was a long time ago.

So, how about you try to get to know her and give her time and space to get to know you a bit more, before you arrange for a meeting.

She's aware of who you are, but not to an extent that would make it comfortable for her to just accept your offer of a date. And she cannot be fault. So, instead of worrying about a magic line that would get her to fall in love for you and wait dutifully at her phone's screen for your next message, start having conversations with her.

If not calling, then texting. Make them as long as possible, before you feel the interest is beginning to fade away, then just exit and resume the next day. In a week or two, she'll be much more open and responsive to your ideas.

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Hi Don, Thanks for the reply.
I probably should have been a bit more detailed, I just didn't want to make the post too long. High school was about 8 years ago, we met up again just walking past each other in a high street about 2 months ago. When we meet up she's very flirty and we seem to have a good time together, we've seen each other about once every 1 - 2 weeks. She's generally very responsive to meeting up, we're going to a dry ski slope in a few weeks, and trying to arrange a night out clubbing soon which we've done before.
I just don't get why it takes 3 days to reply to a text message and as I say I don't know if I should wait 3 days to reply or something, but then that seems a little childish in a kind of tit-for-tat way. Any suggestions ?

are you sleeping with her?

give us an example of her waiting a couple of days to respond. like what EXACTLY are you texting and how and when EXACTLY is she responding?

i mean if its "hey whats up?" on day one and 3 days later shes like "nothing. you?" that seems a little bizarre. but if youre sending something like "hey wanna go out for sushi tuesday afternoon?" on saturday and she gets back to you on monday like "sure. lets meet here tomorrow at noon" or something then that seems less strange to me.

if she likes you and is still seeing you than perhaps shes just not good with texting. or doesnt like it or whatever. i know im like that a lot with my male friends. my best friend will text me about something. ill see it and plan on respoding after i finish what im doing and then forget for 3 days like a douche.

i certainly dont think its a sign of disrespect or disinterest especially if shes still seeing you. but at the same time you dont wanna constantly be texting her and not getting responses and feeling like youre chasing.

That is pretty much it, arranging a meeting I suggested 2 dates, she replied with "I can't do this date, but this date might work xxx" a few days later. Would you expect a reply to that kind of text ?

I'm just not used to a few days between messages, but hearing that other people consider it normal is quite consoling, thank you. We aren't sleeping together, but she had a boyfriend up until Friday.

she may be somewhat interested but not attracted enough to commit. By just relying on text you are hurting what chances you have, texting is not a good method for raising attraction despite how clever you are.

Try to raise her interest level outside of texting before trying to get her out on a date. If you manage to get her out on a half-hearted date where you already have lower value your chances are shit.

Thanks for all the help guys. Any suggestions on how to do this ?

Lol isn't it obvious? CALL HER

It's like no one has ever heard of such a forbidden method of communication

I doubt she's gonna sit there on the phone for 3 days before giving you an answer
There is no such thing as raising attraction, your either attracted to them or your not, its all about escalation!

Can't say I agree with you there..

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Its okay to disagree, are you gonna give an example or just state your disagreement? I'd like to hear these great attraction building texts you know of..

Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game by braddock is really good i try to say something interesting, and send pings every now and then. also i respond every 20 minutes (try) so i dont sound to interested in the conversation. i see it as "texting" takes very little investment, when your ready call her

Yeah i disagree with the calling also. If she barley responds to your text then i doubt shes eager to hear your voice. then when she do pick up its gona be awkward and weird... Build enough rapport text then make her call you (indirectly)

Yo dude, thats cool, but have you not read the post? He see's her once every 1-2 weeks, its not awkward between them in person. So your advice is kinda out of context.

Plus what is an indirect "Make her call you" ? she's not gonna call if they only text each other. Women expect you to make the first move.

Good advice though, keep building rapport through text emiron! once ... every ... 3 days...

You're

and I assume by you are, you are talking about the female not your self? And of course there are different levels of attraction from mildly intrigued to they want to suck your cock on the spot asap. Lets not be trite.

Now now gents, lets not fight. I have called her previously a few times, though she's normally quite eager to get off the phone though I normally pick a bad time (just off to work, she works shifts so work time changes every day etc).
She always seems quite keen to see me in person, guess I'll just keep on jogging and see where it goes. We get on well, so now there's no bf in the picture, I'll try escalating, and if not at least I get a cool buddy and maybe a pivot

Thanks for all the help guys, much appreciated.