Does anyone else experience this??

As i type i am basking in the afterglow of a lovely joint after a long night of work, drink and general tomfoolery (in case u didnt know, i'm a bartender in a cocktail bar in my town) also "A day in the life" by the beatles is playing on my cd player... How wonderfully narrative to me this is, the crazy mood change, paul mccartneys 3/4 break into the very major middle 8, and the glorious crescendo that joins it all together. But i degress...

So im sitting here and im thinking, right now if i was in a club or bar i would and could walk up to any girl, in any set, open, attract and close.. If i was in that situation at this exact moment i would do exactly that and i have the confidence level to achieve it... Why now?

How can i tap into this feeling when the time really calls for it?

Your thoughts....

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You write really well, you might think to right a stories or a book. Just saying.

Do you experience that mood after work?

Usually the mixture of alcohol, music, and over excitement caused by the long night might produce such results.
I get really confident when don't sleep enough and get over excited by that.
The next stage is you fell really tired let's say after an hour or so.

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next time you get that feeling, just go out and test your theory

when you have no obligation and you are on your leisure, you can go out at any time and approach, you don't need a bar, you don't need a club, you just need access to women

nothing happens in the future, it only happens right at this time, right now
reference experience, where the experience lines up with this belief and supports it in your mind, the more evidence you brain has to support your theory, the more certain of that belief you will become

Go for it man, you know what the right settings are needed for you out there.

You should consider reading about NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming). A part of it is about anchoring a state of minds with other things. The PUA community claims to use it a lot on girls, but the first step is to use it on yourself. You can for example relate this state of mind to an image, or a sound, or a physical action, the next time you experiment it. And thereafter, you will trigger this image/sound/action to retrieve that state of mind.

Sounds magic or nonsense , but look at sportsmen : they often have the same actions before a competition juste to reconcentrate. Artists also have this kind of behaviour.

Worth reading a book about it and trying, in my opinion.

Being a big NLP guy myself, I second Sombre. You'll associate simple stimuli with this feeling of confidence and will be able to reproduce it whenever you want. I also have an anchor of confidence which works like a charm.

If you decide to read a book, and I highly recommend it, look into Introducing NLP by O'Connor and Seymour. If you don't want to read a full book, just look into the technique called Anchoring.

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Thanks alot for all you guys responses! As far as NLP goes it would seem I'm definitely guna check out these anchoring techniques and see what happens!

I had an epiphany about this moment recently: I got this feeling after work, when i'd rocked the night to the best of my already excellent bartending skills, got drunk and had fun with my mates. All these things I believe help you to get more comfortable with the subconscious (and sometimes very concious) worry of not impressing by saying the wrong thing AND being that much less inclined to give a shit about rejection...

This has been under my nose for so goddamn long! The amount of times I've said some quite frankly ridiculous shit to girls I know or kinda know (in the world of facebook/ phone contact books) and i mean, some of the most ungodly abrasive forward statements like "When are you next out? Cos when u are, u and I definitely need to have a drink then fuck..." Now I'm loosely paraphrasing here but this is the general template of my drunk, horny texts! I know, ridiculous right?!

The crazy thing is, when i've seen these chickadees again... They love it! I mean yeah there are times when you are now worse than hitler to these girls but i suppose its a pretty full on technique.. You're bound to go down in an inferno of flames more than once! All you appear to need is the poise and grace to tackle such a in your face method.

I tell you this, it works. I've fuck-closed at least 50% of em, not heard anything from 25% and taken off my beer goggles for the other 25% So pretty good going, and its all due to the fact that rejection is non-existent in my mind. So i tell you guys, i'm going out tonight, i'm anchoring this feeling, and I'm guna get laid....

Im gunna seem a real twat now if i don't but fuck it! Field report coming soon! Tomorrow if possible.

Once again thankyou all for your responses and thankyou for the kind words in reference to my scrawlings... I appear to have a lot to say aallllll the time!

Much love,

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