| two things should be developed before you even go out
FIRST figure out what you want in a girl, physically, personality wise, lifestyle wise, what are the reasons for why you want this? (this will be your frame and how you can justify your actions in field to yourself and others), the reasons why you want it are either coming from a very needy place, or a place of giving, or somewhere in between, this will dictate the sort of social value you will be giving off through your intent, you will find if you write it down and are needy, the words will sound alot like smegal from the lord of the rings (me wants it, me needs it, my precious HSSShssshssshsss)
SECOND create a compliance ladder, an escalation stack if you will... to escalate in order and see how willing she is to get physical
example:
tell her she is cute, see if she is still open to a convo
say come closer
see if she is comfortable with you being close to her
hand on shoulder/hand around shoulder
both hands on both shoulders face to face/hug
give me your number
lower back/legs
kiss her on cheek/get her to kiss you on cheek
kiss on the mouth
making out
groping/finger banging
fucking
any step can be skipped at any time, if you go further assume all previous steps will be easily complied with unless she anchors a certain form of touch with discomfort (for example I hate when people touch the insides of my elbows/knees), if she passes a compliance test, you can try to escalate to a higher level of compliance, if not you can try to build compliance at a lower level and when it seems she is comfortable, push the level, keep your time in mind, if she is non compliant at a low level, do you really want to be in set with her all night?
you can increase your rate of compliance by
-putting her in a better mood
-making her comfortable with a lower level of compliance then increasing it after
-making her horny (sort of relates to the first point)
-being persistant in advancing, while indifferent to seeing non compliance (this doesn't mean go rape style on her, it means when you see non compliance, who cares, try again later)
-justifying why she should comply (can be completely retarded, doesn't have to be logical, example, ''give me your hand, you can trust me, I know your mom''
-rewarding compliance from previous stages (after she complies use words/phrases like, good girl, brilliant, wounderful, awesome, amazing, fantastic, glorious, splendid, fucking shweet, sweet, nice, wow I love you, etc. etc. just reward good behavior)
once you have these two aspects handled, in set follow these steps
1)open her (break the ice)
2)chat her up, get in a good mood, vomit some good emotions onto her with your mood while leading (just spit words out of your mouth with a happy mood behind them, she will follow if you are leading), when she is in a good mood, see what she is like and how she matches up with your ideal girl, compliment her when you find an aligment, tease her when she isn't lining up
3)as you chat, test compliance and escalate
4)once you reach a point of non compliance, or she is screening terribly, simple mumble off to her some form of, gimme your phone number, and pull out your phone, move on to a different girl (some guys like to seed a date then ask, or just ask her out to do something, and the phone number comes as the result of her saying yes to hang out or go on a date, or how ever you word it)
5)if you are going to escalate past kissing (makeout and beyond), then isolate her to spot where you can escalate further then that first, if you break off the rapport and don't see her, she might not be so warmed up in the pants if you catch my drift, and this could give her cold feet to the idea of meeting you again
escalation: think of it like when you toss a frog in a pan with water, you turn the heat up, the water heats up gradually, the toad is cold blooded so it likes the warm water, before you know it, it's boiling in there and the toad gets fucked, but if you were to try to just introduce the toad into the boiling water at first with no gradual heat up, he would jump out, escalation is kind of the same, you want your logistics handled, and you want to gradually heat her up, the more excited she gets, the more compliant she will become, when you got her in isolation and your making out, she will start to boil, fuck her, escalate as far as possible, go for the same day lay if you can manage the logistics, you will be more likely to see her again if she has sex with you, more so then if she doesn't, test compliance and stay in set until you have realized that she is either non compliant, or you don't have any chemistry with her (don't be a pussy and leave pre-maturely without getting rejected, or realizing that you hate her)
just know what you want to do at all times, and lead her from one destination to the next (you go first, you take the risks, pro-active rather then re-active, take all the blame for everything), when in doubt, execute the fucking compliance stack and screen, always move things forward, if you have to break off the rapport with a number, make sure you really know a fair bit about the girl before moving on if you hope to see her again, and if you can't accomplish that and make a legitimate connection, then follow up on the phone sooner rather then later, and fix not knowing her, by getting to know her
GOOD LUCK
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