I was wondering what is the best way to combat this, i suppose there will be a different response depending on if you are with your girlfriend or just a target you are gaming.

Lets say you are with your girlfriend, and some friends, but one friend is trying to be flirty but discreetly and you see a bit of kino building, but in a friendly way, it is in his nature and he is like this with anyone. Or lets say in a situation you are in a club or in a gathering, and there is another male demonstrating higher value, what is the best course of action to take ?

Showing signs of being threatend and reacting badly, would give the outer male a higher value, so its a tricky situation, anyone had any past experience of this ?

why do you have to combat this?, just game the girl yourself and don't worry about other guys, ignore it

if she is your girlfriend why would she do anything?

if she is a target, why would another guy be hitting on her when you're there? (are you not leading?)

and if a guy is being overt with your girlfriend in front of you, just tool him, don't put him down, play him up like he is too amazing, while simultaniously doing shit to your girlfriend, giving her direction, lead the situation, and raise the guy up to a standard he can't reach

''wow, look at this smooth guy'' *puts arm around girl friend*

''you're putting the moves on my girlfriend like such a pimp'' *starts to kiss girlfriend*

etc. etc.

Its not a fear of what she might do, but its more of a question of principle, and being in control. I like the examples you gave, thats the sort of things i was after. I remember a mate from university once told me how he can deactivate a potential threat to his game/target, by using some simple words. I saw him do this, but didn't hear the words he said.

Thanks

best way to de-activate a threat is realize there is none, just make friends and enjoy yourself, most guys give girls attention once the ice is broken, the girls are used to it, if it's your girlfriend and you're busy, let her flirt who cares, she won't do anything, probably the 10th guy that has tried giving her attention that day, it's going to happen with or without you around if she is good looking, the only real exception here is if the dude is being overt and making her uncomfortable and you see it, if you can't trust your girlfriend then it's weird you would be dating her, and if you are right beside her and some guy is hitting on her, then you are obviously not leading, and when you are leading, no reason to dis-respect someone who has not dis-respected you, if it's some random dude, how does he even know that's your gf?

as for a target, once again, same thing, if you just met her, who cares, you can walk away and find a new one at any time if it bothers you so much, and if you are currently gaming her it's pretty easy to just isolate and prevent external inturupts, you just ask her if she knows him, if she does tell her to introduce you, befriend him, if not, then you can just lead and ignore him, eventually he will just start reacting and watching, and will get bored, feel awkward and leave, and if the guy is in set to begin with, just lead, he can't do anything but react if you are being pro-active

there is no need to insult anyone, or do anything, unless you are reacting, attention is like a fuel in social situations, what ever you give your attention to, you will fuel, if you don't like that behavior, don't feed it, as long as you are leading you can bring the most value, if you are reacting you are not leading (you go first, be proactive, others follow/react, stay at the cause, rather then the effect)

control is more about the power you have over yourself rather then other people, you don't need anything from others, give rather then take, if no one can control you, then you will be dominant, at no point do you need to domineer others (you can even experiment with this and see the difference in reactions for yourself)

in reguards to frame control it is not as important to react to negativity within the frame, it is important to not allow it into the frame in the first place, it's as if it is insignificant and what that person says has no value (if it is not framed this way in your head, you will sub-communicate this, and ignoring something that you are reacting to, will seem incongruent), you have to just not flinch, not care, not ackowledge, and do it for real as if it did not even enter your ears, you just don't even process negativity, totally rock solid secure, then lead lead lead