Are there topics or words to avoid to make the girl feel slutty?

I met this girl who I thought just wasn't getting my vibe at the time. I was very aggressive but she just didn't get it. I know she liked me, but just didn't get my vibe. So I asked her if she's sexually open. She said that she was and told me specifically who she last fucked. Afterwards, I implied that I had some good amount of experience with women. But eventually all I did was kiss and never got to her place.

In hindsight, she did get my vibe, but I probably just didn't give her enough trust and comfort. She wasn't that drunk either. Also, I showed as if I have little self-control when I'm crazy about something while in fact I have plenty of self control.

On the 5th date we were supposed to go somewhere overnight. She flaked. Maybe she wasn't ready for an overnight trip? Said sorry, gave me a legitimate reason, and asked me to reschedule. She has this guy friend who's traveling internationally to stay at his place for 2 weeks. And ended by sending me a heart on the text. I haven't contacted her and I don't think I feel comfortable texting her back first. She was just straight up kind of annoying making me work too hard for it.

Sounds to me that she might feel a little bit intimidated, may need some more comfort work bro.

Good luck

I'm not sure "not making her feel slutty" is necessarily the issue here. If you focus too much on that notion, you will run the risk of de-sexualising the interaction between you, and diffuse any existing sexual tension, which is exactly what you don't want.

If you've been on 5 dates, as you say, and you haven't got her into bed yet, that is a bad sign. Obviously I don't know the circumstances, but are you sure she currently views you as a viable sex partner? You may have missed the boat rather on this one. How did it go wrong the previous 4 times, if you don't mind me asking?