Hi Guys

This sites been a huge help to me over the past few months and now looking for some more guidance.

Basically I have been with my girlfriend for about 3 months now, love being with her, we have a great time when we see each other which is probably about 5 times a week and I roughly spend about 2/3 nights a week at her place.

The issue I have is that she isn't the most affectionate girlfriend I have ever had, like she doesn't really give much away, it's rare she kisses me first or indicates she wants to snuggle with me (although she did actually do that last night). When we go out and she's had a couple of drinks she seems to loosen up and become more open and much more affectionate.

I know how she feels about me and I know she's wanting this to be a LTR, for example she was saying that next Summer I have to come sailing with her family.

To me it feels like something is missing tho and I think it's to do with the lack of affection - Im not a wimp who constantly needs to be kissed and cuddled but I have to admit that the lack of obvious affection is getting to me slightly now.

Im looking for some advice on how to get her to open up more and offer more affection without me initiating it - should I back away slightly and give her some distance or what?!

Any help you guys can offer would be greatly appreciated.

Crazy about this girl and would really like to make a proper go of things.

Thanks in advance.

_________________
Berg!

This is your problem most probably you been with this girl for 3 months and you practically see her every dam day. God sakes man back off some as in don't see her every day. You don't need to drastically cut it down, but see her like 2 or 3 days a week and maybe spent one night a week. Its quite possible she sees you so much that she doesn't "miss" you and such shows less affection to you.
Its is possible she isn't that affectionate as a person in general. Some people, including, girls are like this. She could be one of them.

Look, it's your choice to want a girl that you see every day, who gives you all her attention. That's not a rare thing, there are plenty of girls like that and some of them aren't even crazy. If you can't reconcile what you need with your girlfriend, you should think about dumping her. Personally I think you can change a girl's opinion of you before you are in a relationship, but afterwards, it's hard... you both get stuck in your ways. Sometimes you close one door to open a better one.